As I glide through my late 30s, I’m realizing that three and a half decades of life experiences—both the ups and the downs—have crafted a richer, more fulfilling existence. Sure, I’ve faced my share of challenges, like family changes and financial hiccups, but I’ve also emerged stronger. I grew up navigating a divorce, learned to cope with panic attacks, and endured the rollercoaster of pregnancy, including two joyful births and a heartbreaking miscarriage. And, let’s not forget the years of sleepless nights with little ones! After a decade of therapy and self-discovery, I’m here to share the five things I absolutely adore about my late 30s.
1. Clarity on Desires
I know what I want and what makes me tick. From the perfect pair of boy shorts (size medium, please) to my ideal Saturday night—snuggled up with a book or a movie with my partner—I’ve embraced my preferences. No more pretending to be someone I’m not. A scoop of vegan mint chocolate chip ice cream? Now that’s happiness in a bowl!
2. Boundaries Are Key
Being honest about what I don’t want has been liberating. Let’s be clear: horror movies are a hard pass for me! I prefer text messages over phone calls—who doesn’t love a good emoji? And when it comes to dinner time, I’ve learned that a little peace and quiet while I enjoy my meal is essential for my sanity.
3. Coping Skills Galore
I’ve recently opened up about my struggles with anxiety, and it’s been a breath of fresh air. I used to wish my anxious thoughts would disappear, but now I accept them as part of me. Writing has become my go-to coping mechanism—if you’re anxious, I highly recommend it! I keep my therapist’s number close at hand, along with a little prescription for Xanax, just in case.
4. Body Acceptance
Over the last few years, I’ve grown to appreciate my body in all its glory. Sure, I wouldn’t mind a little tightening in certain areas, and I could do without that extra five pounds from last winter, but I know I’ll never be the picture-perfect model. I’ve ditched the crash diets and fads—now it’s all about health and self-acceptance.
5. Perfectly Imperfect
Growing up meant letting go of the unrealistic expectations I had for my life. Sure, I have a loving spouse and two wonderful kids, but the material possessions I thought I’d have by now? Not quite. We still live in a cozy rented home, can’t afford lavish vacations, and drive our trusty Honda Civic from our wedding day. And you know what? I’ve realized that perfection is overrated; the secret to happiness is appreciating what I have.
As I approach the fabulous 40s, I’m excited about what’s to come. Bring on the gray hairs, the perimenopause, and those creaky bones! For me, aging is all about resilience, letting go, and rocking this next chapter of life.
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In summary, I’m embracing my late 30s with open arms, celebrating clarity, boundaries, coping strategies, self-acceptance, and the beauty of imperfection. Here’s to resilience and thriving in the years to come!