When my little one confided in me about his worries, I couldn’t help but channel my inner psychologist—thank you, Freud! My heart ached as I reflected on my own childhood, deeply rooted in the immigrant experience. Like my son, Liam, who is also the child of immigrants, I left my homeland for North America with my partner not too long ago. While we communicate in English at home, it’s not Liam’s only language; he’s quite proficient at reading and writing it. Plus, he’s familiar with the school environment he’ll be stepping into next month.
During the school year, Liam’s kindergarten teacher took the class on several excursions to the schoolyard. He’s spent countless hours there since he was a toddler, even exploring those sneaky little nooks and crannies of the building. His experience is a far cry from what I faced all those years ago.
I often find myself worried about connecting with my son; sometimes it feels like our different backgrounds and gender create barriers. In that moment, I realized I squandered a chance to foster a deeper connection based on true listening. Instead of allowing him to share his feelings, I made it about my own past. What he needed wasn’t a solution, but a safe space to express himself.
Tomorrow, when Liam wakes up, I know I won’t be perfect. I’ll probably miss some more cues, but we’ll revisit the topic of first grade. This time, I’ll be the one asking, “Why?”—and I’ll really listen.
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In summary, understanding our children takes patience and active listening. By stepping back and making space for their emotions, we strengthen our bond and help them navigate their fears.