Having my first child eight years ago at the tender age of 24 left me utterly clueless. I was overwhelmed, anxious, and frankly, a little bit lost, which led me to say some pretty thoughtless things to my partner. If you’re a new dad, take notes from my blunders so you can avoid making the same mistakes.
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When can we get back to intimacy?
Oh boy, how selfish can you be? Your partner just went through the monumental experience of childbirth (hello, C-section!), but all you’re worried about is your own needs. Seriously, give her some space. She just created life and endured major surgery. The last thing she needs is to feel pressured for intimacy. -
When are we starting to exercise again?
Nice try, buddy. You said “we,” but what you really meant was “you.” Your partner probably heard, “You need to lose that baby weight.” Great job confirming every new mom’s fear! Remember, she’s not just adjusting to a new baby, but also to a new body. You fell in love with her for who she is, not just for how she looks in jeans. So, cut her some slack! -
I’m so tired.
We get it; parenting is exhausting for everyone. But complaining about your fatigue to your partner might make her feel like she needs to lift you up emotionally. Right now, she’s got her own recovery to focus on while caring for your little one. Instead of whining about it, just lend a hand and help out! -
Do I really have to change the baby?
Yes, you absolutely do! Welcome to fatherhood, my friend! This is a partnership, and if the baby needs a diaper change, step up to the plate. Embrace it! It’s a new era where dads can change diapers without complaint. Your willingness to pitch in can make a world of difference to your family. -
Three months off work? Sounds like a vacation!
Hold the phone! It’s not a vacation, it’s recovery time for your partner. She needs to heal and bond with your baby, and honestly, she deserves as much time as she needs. What you really mean is that you wish you could also take time off to support her and build that family connection. It’s not fair that you don’t get paternity leave, and it’s okay to feel that frustration without downplaying her experience.
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To sum it up, being a new dad is tough, and saying the wrong thing can complicate things even more. Learn from my mistakes, be supportive, and remember that you’re in this together!