Being a mother is a monumental task, but stepping into the role of a new mom? That’s like attempting to scale Everest without any prior climbing experience. So, here are some things you should never feel guilty for as a fresh mom.
A Chaotic Home
So what if the laundry has taken over half the house and the dishes are reaching new heights? You just brought a tiny human into the world, which is a far greater challenge than keeping everything tidy. Prioritize your little one over a dust-free TV stand when guests arrive.
Your Disheveled Look
Messy buns are the latest trend, and yoga pants are basically a mom’s uniform. You’re exhausted, probably have spit-up on your shirt, and don’t have the energy to justify your appearance or the fact you haven’t showered in a few days. So, why stress about it?
Unexpected Leaks
By now, you’ve probably realized that no matter how well you prepare, those nursing pads will sometimes fail. And if someone has a problem with that, well, they’re not busy nurturing a new life like you are. You deserve applause for your commitment to your baby’s growth.
Your Post-Pregnancy Shape
Let’s be real: you can never truly return to your pre-baby body, nor should you want to. This body, complete with stretch marks, has accomplished something extraordinary—bringing a new life into the world. Embrace those changes as badges of honor; after all, childbirth isn’t for the faint-hearted.
Lack of Interest in Intimacy
It’s completely normal to not feel like having physical intimacy after giving birth. Your doctor will likely advise waiting at least six weeks, and you’ll know when you feel ready. And when you do, you might even find it’s just as enjoyable—if not nearly as enjoyable—as before.
Having Questions
There’s no instruction manual for babies (other than that somewhat useless pamphlet from the hospital). It’s perfectly okay to have questions! Even experienced moms often seek advice. If you’re actively looking for help, you’re already doing a fantastic job.
Your Right to Disregard Advice
Just because you ask for suggestions doesn’t mean you have to follow every piece of advice you receive. In the end, you know your baby best. While many who offer advice have the best intentions, not every suggestion will suit your child. Trust your instincts—you are the ultimate authority here.
Asking for Support
Many new moms feel overwhelmed but push through, thinking it’s what they should do. Don’t hesitate to ask for help when you need it. There’s no prize for running yourself into the ground. If someone offers assistance, take it!
Desiring Time for Yourself
There’s this misconception that new moms will never want to be away from their babies. While some may feel that way, many moms, like me, crave the occasional night out with friends or a partner to recharge. And that’s perfectly okay; you need that time to reset and be ready for mom duty again.
Feeling Blue
Life changes, such as giving birth, can trigger feelings of anxiety and depression. With hormones fluctuating and a new routine to navigate, it’s no surprise if you feel overwhelmed. If you find the sadness is becoming too much, don’t hesitate to reach out for help.
Not Being the Same Person
If you’re among the first in your circle to have a baby, you might hear that you’ve changed. Of course, you have! You just welcomed a new life into your family. While you may still retain your core self, your priorities and interests will naturally shift. That’s completely normal.
So, new mamas, remember that this journey can be tough, but you’ll adapt. And never forget: you have nothing to apologize for!
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Summary
New moms should embrace their messy homes, disheveled looks, and the changes to their bodies and lives without feeling guilty. It’s essential to ask questions, seek advice, accept help, and take time for themselves. Feeling overwhelmed or different after having a baby is completely normal, and it’s okay to prioritize your well-being.