Parenting
Some promises are tough to make, and even tougher to think about. They revolve around those heart-wrenching “what ifs” and scenarios that we genuinely hope never come to fruition. These promises can weigh heavily on our minds, yet we often make them because it brings us a sense of peace, knowing they’re there—just in case.
When I learned about the Thompson family adopting their best friend’s four daughters after she passed away from brain cancer, it sent shivers down my spine. It struck a little too close to home for comfort. My friends and I are all around 40, with kids in tow, and the kicker is that we are named in our best friends’ will as the legal guardians of their two children, should both parents be unable to care for them.
About five years ago, they came to us with this solemn request. Unlike a casual promise, this was a well-thought-out decision made after a lot of serious discussions. Their parents were aging and unable to take on the responsibility of young kids. Siblings were out of the question for various reasons, and while there were other friends who could help, factors like health and distance also played a role.
Don’t get me wrong; we weren’t their last resort. They understood our financial situation, so this decision was made with great care. Yet, my husband and I are practically family to them—we go way back! He’s known her since high school and was even in their wedding party, just as they were in ours. We’ve spent countless summers camping together and sharing holidays, and we were the first to hear about their second pregnancy. Their son even proposed to me when he was just five! Our lives are intertwined in the most beautiful way.
So when they asked us to be guardians to their children if the worst were to happen, saying yes was a no-brainer. At that time, we didn’t have kids of our own, but we were starting to plan. The thought of taking in those kids meant we’d need a bigger house, a second car, and a lot more grocery money. But honestly, those concerns pale in comparison to the love we feel for them.
Stories like the Thompson’s remind me that life can be unpredictable and tragically short, filled with twists that may pull us from our loved ones. While I hope we never have to fulfill our promise, if that day ever came, we wouldn’t hesitate to welcome those kids into our home. It would be both an honor and a privilege.
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In summary, some promises are made with heavy hearts, yet they also bring a profound sense of gratitude for the trust placed in us. Embracing the possibility of change in our family dynamics can lead to wonderful new adventures.