Let’s be real: being a working mom is a juggling act that often feels like a circus performance. Whether it’s well-meaning friends or uninformed acquaintances, there’s no shortage of comments that can really get under our skin. Here’s a rundown of ten things you should probably avoid saying to a working mom, unless you’re looking for a side of sass.
- You’re so lucky to get a break!
Um, excuse me? If by “break,” you mean squeezing into work clothes at dawn and heading to an office, then sure. But let’s clarify: I don’t need a break from my kids; I spend my entire workday dreaming about them. - You’re missing out on so much.
Oh, I’m well aware, thanks! I get it; I’m not there for every milestone. But let’s be honest: we all miss out on something. Your kid probably said their first word in front of the babysitter too! - You look exhausted!
Wow, thanks for the reminder! I guess I should just be grateful that you noticed. Unless you’ve got a magic wand to fix my tired face, let’s skip this one, shall we? - Do you really have to work?
That’s none of your business! Whether I’m working out of necessity or passion, my situation doesn’t need your judgment. And let’s face it, asking me that is just plain rude. - I read that kids in childcare are more aggressive.
Seriously? I know the studies. But let’s not pretend that every kid who goes to daycare is doomed. If you want to go there, I could whip up a list of your parenting faux pas too. - Don’t you miss them?
Of course I do! It’s not like I’m off enjoying a spa day while they’re at home. Don’t assume I’m heartless just because I’m at work! - You must be so organized!
Let me tell you, being a working mom is like a high-stakes game of Tetris. If you were in my shoes, you’d figure it out too. It’s not just about organization; it’s survival! - It must be so hard for you.
You bet it is! But don’t think I have a personal assistant to handle my life. I’m still cooking, cleaning, and working. If you think it’s tough for me, maybe thank your partner for all they do, too! - I couldn’t let someone else raise my children.
Excuse me, but I’m the one raising my kids! Just because I’m working doesn’t mean I’m outsourcing my parenting. That paycheck helps provide for them, and that’s part of being a parent. - Women should be at home with their kids.
Nope! Women should be wherever they want to be. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to motherhood.
At the end of the day, I strive to support all moms—working, stay-at-home, or otherwise. We all face unique challenges, and there’s no need to disrespect one another for our choices. So please, think before you speak, no matter the kind of mom you’re chatting with!
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Summary
Working moms face a unique set of challenges and comments from well-meaning individuals. From assumptions about their choices to unsolicited advice, it’s essential to understand the impact of our words. By fostering empathy and respect, we can support one another in our diverse parenting journeys, whether through a career or at home.