So, you’ve just discovered you’re pregnant, and a medical professional has gently informed you that your pregnancy falls into the “high-risk” category. Whether it’s due to advanced maternal age, type I diabetes, or the delightful challenge of expecting twins (or maybe all three, like I recently experienced), it’s perfectly normal to feel a bit overwhelmed. If you’re battling the urge to throw your phone at the next person who comments on your size or how tired you look, you’re not alone!
If your current situation has you hiding out in your room, emerging only for bathroom breaks (every 15 minutes), and you’re overwhelmed with anxiety about your little one’s health, keep reading. Here’s your guide to surviving until your baby arrives safely—without losing your sanity.
- Embrace the Emotional Rollercoaster: The whirlwind of feelings you’re experiencing is completely valid. One minute you’re regretting your situation, the next you’re terrified about the health of your baby. It’s all part of the process, and crying your eyes out a few times a day is not only acceptable; it’s necessary. Let it out!
- Get Your Partner Involved: Make sure your partner knows it’s their role to listen to your concerns with compassion. They should be nodding sympathetically while giving you those much-needed foot rubs. And if they’re not, remind them!
- Never Go to an Ultrasound Alone: Seriously, don’t do it. I learned this the hard way during my twin pregnancy when I had to hear heartbreaking news solo. Bring support with you to help you navigate any difficult news and to lean on when needed.
- Be Kind to Your Care Team: Treat your healthcare providers with respect and kindness. Trust me, it pays off. If you find yourself receiving less-than-stellar care, it’s okay to raise your voice and advocate for yourself, but save your complaints for your partner (see tip 2).
- Google Smartly: If you must research your condition online (and I know you will), steer clear of forums. They’re filled with negativity and horror stories that can send your anxiety through the roof. Stick to reliable sources, like UCSF Center for Reproductive Health, which offers excellent resources for pregnancy and home insemination.
- Prioritize Sleep: Aim to be in bed by 8 p.m. or even 7 if you can manage it. You’ll need all the rest you can get with the sleepless nights ahead. Commit to spending time in bed—even if you’re just tossing and turning.
- Tune Into Calming Sounds: Find audio that soothes you—be it nature sounds or your favorite artist. Regularly listening to calming music can help train your brain to chill out, reducing anxiety, which is your biggest enemy right now.
- You’re Not Alone: Many women face similar struggles, despite the perfectly curated baby bump photos flooding social media. Remember, “other people feel this” can be a comforting thought.
- Invest in Comfort: Stock up on essentials like Tucks, comfy bras, and whatever else makes you feel good. Treat yourself to healthy meals you don’t have to prepare and consider hiring a cleaning service. You can save money later; right now, prioritize your well-being.
- Delegate and Share: Write down what’s stressing you out and don’t hesitate to share it when people ask how they can help. Whether it’s tackling insurance calls or walking the dog, offload tasks so you can focus on your pregnancy.
For more guidance on navigating your high-risk pregnancy, check out our other post at this link. If you’re considering self insemination options, visit Make a Mom for expert advice.
Summary
Navigating a high-risk pregnancy can feel like a daunting task, but with the right strategies, you can manage the stress and focus on your well-being. From embracing your emotions to surrounding yourself with supportive individuals, every step can help you through this journey. Remember, you’re not alone, and there are plenty of resources to guide you along the way.