As my college years drew to a close, my friends and I celebrated with one last wild night of karaoke, filled with laughter and dreams of conquering the art world. We were convinced that our artistic talents would redefine feminism in New York, creating work so profound it would leave audiences in awe.
That was the era of bold ambitions and limitless possibilities.
In the following years, we all dated incredible partners, nestled in cozy apartments filled with our creative aspirations. We exchanged cheap beer for martinis and classy gatherings, living out our early adulthood.
That was the era of dating.
In a whirlwind, my friends began to get engaged to their perfect partners. Lunch meetings transformed into planning sessions for weddings, with discussions centered around caterers, DJs, and bridesmaid dresses. I found myself in a dozen weddings within just two years, my closet bursting with taffeta and sea foam green.
That was the era of weddings.
Before I knew it, the phase of expectant parents and new homebuyers swept in. My credit card bills told tales of baby showers and housewarming parties, as Pottery Barn practically became a second home.
That was the era of settling.
While my friends embraced the changes of marriage and motherhood, I quietly enjoyed a long engagement with my now-husband, Mark. We took our time, choosing not to jump into parenthood or high-paying jobs. Instead, we bought a charming fixer-upper in the countryside, eloped in our dining room, and prioritized our dreams within our means. I maintained an art studio while Mark crafted beautiful boats. While we drifted from some old friends, new friendships blossomed as time went on.
Then, the phone rang. It was my friend Lisa, her voice shaking and tears pouring down her cheeks. She wanted to meet at our favorite café. When I arrived, I found her alone, heartbroken, sharing the devastating news of her infidelity and impending divorce.
Over the next few years, similar stories unfolded around me. Women who once radiated confidence and ambition were now signing divorce papers, their children navigating the complexities of custody arrangements. Friendships frayed and split as sides were taken.
I observed these changes quietly, standing on the sidelines as my friends transitioned into middle-aged divorcées. In those heavy conversations, the sobering realization hit me: nothing lasts forever.
That was the era of divorce.
As the seasons passed, once vibrant with excitement, our lives slowed down. Our children grew taller, filled with their own dreams of love and making a difference. Last names changed again, and old friends faded into distant memories.
When my college friends confide in me about their divorces, they express worry for their kids but also excitement for their new beginnings. What I wish I could tell them is that their tales of heartbreak and separation have instilled in me a deep appreciation for my own marriage.
Mark and I cling to our partnership as we navigate parenthood and build a creative life together. I often ponder how my friends, who once spoke with such confidence about their futures, are now embarking on this new chapter.
How did I manage to weather the storm of divorce with my marriage unscathed?
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In summary, while the seasons of my friends’ lives have evolved dramatically, my gratitude for my marriage has only deepened amidst their struggles.