Dear fellow moms,
Let’s be real for a moment. I’m really tired of hearing all the justifications, and honestly, I’m over making them myself. Why do we feel the need to explain every little flaw to our friends and neighbors? Why are we trying to justify things we can’t change or don’t even want to?
Look, I don’t need you to tell me that your daughter picked out her outfit this morning. I can see it for myself, and honestly, she’s rocking that purple-striped, red polka-dot, pink-hearted ensemble she somehow managed to put on backwards. Sure, her hair might not be ready for a viral YouTube tutorial, but you know what? She doesn’t care, and neither do I. You even managed to get a comb through it—so, high five!
Your house isn’t spotless? What a shocker! You have kids! News flash: your home probably won’t see a vacuum cleaner for the next decade. No need to tell me you’ve been busy or had guests over. Trust me, I get it. Mine looks like a tornado of tiny humans hit it, and I can barely keep a path clear to the door.
Still struggling to fit back into your pre-baby jeans? Really? Shame on you, as I sneak a donut from behind my back. Most of us are in the same boat! Some are trying but haven’t succeeded yet, others have medical reasons, and then there are those who just don’t care. Your waist size is your own business. So instead of explaining why the scale isn’t budging, why not ask me for a walk? We could both use the fresh air, and the kids will love it!
Your bake sale cupcakes don’t look like they belong on Pinterest? Join the club! After a few failed attempts, I just bought mine from the store. My kids are thrilled because the “interesting” ones at home are now up for grabs. Even the best bakers have their off days, so it’s totally fine if we do too. No need to apologize for not being perfect—it’s just annoying!
Did your toddler decide to make a naked dash through the neighborhood? At least he remembered his socks! We all know the struggle. Instead of hanging your head in embarrassment as you mumble excuses about how he escaped, let’s just share a laugh. These little ones could probably break out of Fort Knox if they put their minds to it. Trust me, I’m not judging!
You don’t need to make a hasty exit from our playdate because your 2-year-old hasn’t figured out all the social niceties yet. Mine smacked someone last time, and we’re all just doing our best to work through it together.
There’s no need to justify why you chose to medicate your child or decided to take a break from homeschooling. You’re the mom, and your instincts are what matter most. Don’t apologize for making the choices you believe are right.
So the next time you feel like saying sorry for your messy hair, cluttered car, unkempt lawn, or shoeless child—just don’t. I don’t want to hear it. The only apology I need is when you try to pretend you’re someone you’re not. But I already know the real you, and guess what? I like you just the way you are.
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In summary, let’s embrace our imperfections and stop apologizing for not fitting into some unrealistic mold of perfection. We’re all just doing our best, and that’s more than enough!