Maya Rudolph’s commencement address at Tulane was truly unforgettable. From her spot-on Oprah impression to a Beyoncé-style rendition of the national anthem, she captured the audience’s attention. But the real gem from her speech was her emphasis on the power of saying “Yes, and” instead of “No.” “In improvisation, there’s one rule to remember, and it’s called ‘Yes, and,’” Rudolph stated. “If I could offer any advice, it would be this: Embrace ‘Yes.’ Embrace ‘Yes, and’ to shape your own future … and put your phone down every once in a while.”
Wise words indeed. After all, “Yes, and” can answer a myriad of questions when you’re fresh out of college. Do you want to split an apartment downtown? Yes, and I’ll take the master bedroom! How about drinks after work? Yes, and I’ll have the biggest cocktail you have. Should I flirt with my boss? Yes, and it’s time to update my resume!
But here’s a thought: does “Yes, and” still hold water once you’ve settled down with kids? Let’s put it to the test.
1. The Dairy Queen Dilemma
It’s a Sunday evening at 7 p.m. You’ve spent the day at the beach with your kids—building sandcastles, splashing in the waves, and devouring hot dogs. You’re finally home, showered, and ready to relax when your 9-year-old strolls into your room. “Mom, can we go to Dairy Queen?” Your gut response might be “Not a chance!” But since it’s still the weekend, you reframe it: “Yes, and could you grab me a large Brownie Batter Blizzard?” Perfectly reasonable!
2. The Driving License Request
Your 16-year-old just got his driver’s license and wants to borrow your car. “Hey Mom, can I take your keys? Andrew is having some friends over to study.” And by “study,” you know they’re really planning to binge-watch a movie. Your first instinct is to say “No way.” Instead, you say: “Yes, and please pick up some milk and eggs on your way back.” Win-win!
3. Girls’ Night Out
It’s girls’ night out, and you’re dining with fellow moms when a group of guys at the bar sends over a round of shots. Just as you’re about to decline, mumbling about it being a school night, you decide to embrace the moment. “Yes, and let’s have another round … courtesy of our new friends!”
Honestly, I think the “Yes, and” mantra is a winner!
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In summary, adopting the “Yes, and” approach in parenting not only opens doors to creativity and fun but also encourages connection with your kids in delightful ways.