I once knew a woman named Claire who couldn’t stand her job and made it a point to announce that she hoped to be fired. I pulled her aside and reminded her that the people within earshot might one day be working at a company she wanted to join. Imagine her potential future boss asking them, “Hey, do you know Claire?” and receiving the response, “Yeah, she was always going on about getting fired.” Not a great impression, right?
There are plenty of other statements to avoid in the workplace that also apply at home, especially if you want to maintain friendly neighborhood ties. Here’s a rundown:
1. Avoid Saying Someone is Incompetent.
At work: Sure, there might be someone who struggles with their tasks, but if you aren’t in a position to change that, it’s best to keep your thoughts to yourself. Complaining only showcases your insecurities and could come off as unkind—qualities no one wants in a coworker.
At home: Never speak negatively about other parents in front of your kids. Little ones can be like sponges, repeating anything that sounds interesting. “My mom thinks your dad is way too strict!”—yikes! Just don’t go there.
2. Don’t Friend Everyone on Social Media.
At work: I used to see the most outrageous posts from coworkers on Facebook, including complaints about being hungover or pretending to work while actually doing something else. This kind of oversharing can cost you your job. Avoid being that person!
At home: Think twice before adding your kids’ friends’ parents. Gossip spreads faster than wildfire in my neighborhood, and I’d prefer not to have someone sharing my more questionable posts with others. My kids will be growing up alongside theirs, so let’s not complicate things.
3. Refrain from Coveting Others’ Lives.
At work: Want a colleague’s position? Keep it to yourself! Expressing envy will just create discomfort and may drive people away from you. Teamwork is key, after all.
At home: Desiring someone else’s partner or child? Keep those thoughts to yourself. It’s just awkward and will likely make others avoid you. Who can blame them?
4. Skip the Talks about Drinking.
At work: Everyone loves a good gossip session, but sharing that you enjoy a drink can lead to unwanted reputations. Nobody wants their judgment questioned! If you like to unwind after hours, that’s perfectly fine—just don’t broadcast it.
At home: I’ve noticed a backlash against parents enjoying their evening glass of wine. People are quick to judge your choices, and they may even feel compelled to intervene if they think it’s harmful. Your choices should remain private, so keep it that way!
5. Don’t Get Too Heated About Politics or Religion.
At work: Living in a culturally vibrant city, I can’t completely avoid these topics, but don’t make your views a soapbox. You might unintentionally offend someone whose beliefs are deeply held. Respecting differing opinions is crucial.
At home: Teach your kids that discussions about politics or religion aren’t for their friends. My husband is a devout Christian, while I identify as an atheist, leading to some interesting conversations. But I learned the hard way when my daughter told her friends, “Mommy hates God.” Oh boy! I certainly don’t want to scare off playdates over misunderstandings.
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In summary, avoiding certain phrases can foster a more harmonious environment at both work and home. Keeping your opinions to yourself, respecting others, and being mindful of how your words might be received can go a long way in ensuring smoother interactions.