After a long day of parenting, when the stars align and we’re not completely wiped out, my husband and I might find ourselves lounging in front of the TV. And by lounging, I mean we’re on separate couches, watching a show we both tolerate while exchanging meaningful looks—especially when the popcorn bowl is up for grabs.
It’s a slice of marital bliss, really. But let’s be honest, nothing spices up the routine like those rare nights when he’s away for work. Yes, I genuinely appreciate him more when he’s not around. Apparently, I’m not alone in this sentiment; research in the journal Social Forces suggests that wives often enjoy a boost in their quality of life when their husbands clock extra hours at the office. And we all know—happy wife, happy life!
Here are five reasons why, even though I adore my husband, I relish those solo nights:
- My Own Bed: Oh, those classic TV couples with their separate beds were onto something! No more heavy legs draped over me or the nightly battle for the covers. Instead, I can spread out freely in a nest of pillows with the thermostat set to a perfect 69 degrees—not 67! Those two degrees make a world of difference—plus, the bed won’t smell like last week’s takeout. A breath of fresh air is a rare treat!
- Bedtime Bliss: Solo parenting means I can actually enforce bedtime. Suddenly, “time to wash up” doesn’t lead to spontaneous games of catch or snack raids. It translates to teeth brushing, face washing, and jumping into bed—perhaps with a calming story—by 8:30 p.m. (Okay, let’s be real, I’m still struggling to hit 8:00 p.m. on my own).
- Breakfast for Dinner: Forget the heavy meals! My boys are perfectly content with eggs and toast or cereal and fruit. Simple, mess-free, and followed by ice cream for dessert? Yes, please!
- TV Time My Way: Unless we’re having one of our “quality” nights together, the main TV is usually tuned into sports. And somehow, when I sneak away to indulge in a Bravo marathon, he always pops in, commandeering the remote. Not my cup of tea!
- Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder: Time apart rekindles my appreciation for my husband when he returns. It’s a little cliché, but true—absence truly does make the heart grow fonder!
So, when’s the next work trip, darling?
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Summary
It’s essential to cherish some alone time in a marriage. The benefits of occasional solitude can enhance appreciation for your partner while allowing for personal space and time to recharge. After all, a happy spouse contributes to a harmonious home!