Dear precious daughter,
As soon as you entered this world, the comments about your beauty started rolling in. Yes, you are stunning, especially in the eyes of your dad and me. However, I want you to seek praise for the skills you cultivate and the hard work you put in rather than solely for your appearance. Aim to be radiant, insightful, and determined. It’s important that your beauty is complemented by your brilliance, curiosity, dedication, passion, authenticity, humor, and talent. Your outer beauty will shine even more brightly when combined with a wealth of unique abilities.
You’ll often hear strangers and friends alike asking you to “smile!” I want you to know that it’s perfectly fine to express a range of emotions—scowling, reflecting, crying, pondering, singing, smiling, or even wincing. Your face is a canvas for your heart, and you owe no one a forced smile. Our hope is for you to embrace happiness, but not at the cost of your true feelings.
When we discovered you were a girl, well-meaning people sighed with delight at the thought of dressing you in pink frills. Some even suggested you were the perfect balance for your brothers. I find that notion rather cringe-worthy, as you might if you ever have sons or daughters of your own.
I hope you blend the wisdom of Hermione Granger with the creativity of Judy Blume and a hefty dose of Kurt Vonnegut. I encourage you to enjoy shows like Doctor Who and Star Wars while being critical of influences like the Kardashians and the Twilight series.
Women are incredibly funny and complex. You can be more than just a nurse, wife, or even the glamorous “Brilliant Hooker.” Be courageous enough to pursue roles such as a surgeon, a business owner, or even the President. You can be the leading lady, the sidekick, or even Tree Number Seven in a play.
There’s much to celebrate in being an alto, and there’s also beauty in a cappella. Don’t shy away from taking center stage when the moment arises. I hope you learn to kick, dribble, run, bat, and spike in sports.
Pink is lovely, but it’s not everything. While pink dazzles, it doesn’t define you. Shout “Holy Yeses!” as often as you can. The things that scare you can also teach you and, if you’re fortunate, inspire awe.
Don’t fear being unliked; rather, beware of those who excuse rudeness. Jump high and with energy, but learn to recognize when it’s time to pause. Math may seem daunting, but with time and effort, you can master it. Remember, it’s alright to have definitive answers in math, just as there are sometimes clear right and wrong paths in life.
Take the time to learn languages, navigate public transportation, and assertively say, “No, thank you.” Be cautious with the words you choose, like “bitch” or the c-word; other women are not your enemies by default. Embrace your femininity and appreciate masculinity in the same light. Men are not your foes.
Learning to communicate succinctly is a gift, but listening is an even greater one. The word “cute” loses its charm as you grow older. Prioritize your health and well-being over superficial concerns about your weight. Don’t forget to indulge in life’s simple pleasures.
Savor every moment. Laugh heartily, apologize sincerely, and forgive generously. Raise an eyebrow or two when needed. And while I wish I could hold onto you as my baby forever, I know that growth is essential for both of us. No matter who you become or what advice you choose to follow, remember that my love for you is unwavering.
With all my love,
Mom
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In summary, embrace your uniqueness, pursue your passions, and remember that real beauty comes from within. As you navigate life, never forget that you are deeply loved.
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