There has been a lot of chatter about the term “mansplaining”—some folks feel it’s too broad, while others think it’s lacking in depth. Honestly, who has the time to debate the nuances of feminism, pop culture, and why we can’t all just get along? The term itself might make some people cringe, but the concept behind it remains relevant—even if it doesn’t fit neatly into a box.
So, what is mansplaining? It’s when a man, intentionally or not, assumes a woman needs a topic explained to her when she actually doesn’t. This can stem from a condescending attitude, cluelessness, blatant sexism, or just the everyday nonsense of patriarchy. Not every mansplainer is a jerk, but some definitely are. The term covers a wide range of behaviors, all held together by a collective sigh from women everywhere.
For example, I was recently at a book fair when a man approached my friend Sarah, asking for a poem about the moon. Instead of simply making a suggestion, he went on and on about lunar phases and their cultural significance. At another event, a gentleman thought it was impossible for me to write a poem about science fiction because, you know, I’m a woman. These guys were friendly, but completely unaware that their comments were out of line. And when we pointed it out, they were shocked—like we were the ones lacking understanding!
Here’s a handy guide for when you, my fellow ladies, encounter these oblivious dudes or when a guy tries to mansplain the very concept of mansplaining to you.
EXAMPLE 1
You ask your pals for book recommendations, and a mansplainer decides you need a history lesson first.
MANSPLAINER: “I wasn’t being condescending; I was just answering your question!”
YOU: “Answering my question would mean saying, ‘Here are a few great reads I enjoyed.’ What you did was launch into a lecture about the origins of literature. That’s not helpful; it implies I need an education on books.”
EXAMPLE 2
You’re discussing mansplaining with your friend when a man jumps in.
MAN: “But women can over-explain too! I’ve had womansplainers!”
YOU: “Nope. Womansplaining isn’t a real thing. Anyone can be condescending, but women face this kind of treatment constantly. It’s about a power imbalance in society. If a woman over-explains, it’s not a reflection of cultural norms. Trust me, she’ll be called out for it right away.”
EXAMPLE 3
A guy feels hurt after being labeled a mansplainer.
MAN: “I wasn’t suggesting you’re less intelligent! I was just trying to explain how to jumpstart a car.”
YOU: “I appreciate your concern for my safety, but I didn’t ask for a lesson—I just wanted to borrow your car for a jump. Your assumption that I don’t know how cars work feeds into a system that undervalues women. Every time a man explains something I didn’t ask about, it subtly reinforces why women earn less and struggle for recognition.”
EXAMPLE 4
A man has had enough of your “feminist overthinking.”
MANSPLAINER: “Mansplaining isn’t real. If you’d just calm down, we could all get along!”
YOU: [insert a dramatic reaction involving a series of unfortunate events, from getting arrested to your mugshot going viral, because hey, why not?]
So, there you have it! Feel free to keep this guide handy for all the times you encounter those well-meaning mansplainers. And may the Force be with you.
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In summary, mansplaining is an issue many women face, and knowing how to respond can empower you to challenge these behaviors effectively.