As my daughter Bella approaches her tenth birthday, I’m filled with reflections on her childhood and the life lessons I hope to pass on to her. While I can’t mold her beliefs like clay, I can share my thoughts, gently reminding her of what truly matters.
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Your Happiness Isn’t Your Responsibility
It’s not your job to keep everyone around you happy—me, your dad, your friends, or even your pet goldfish! The reality is, you can’t please everyone, and that’s perfectly okay. -
Embrace Your Fearlessness
Keep that adventurous spirit alive! Run, jump, climb, and throw yourself into every experience. It’s a joy to watch you playing soccer or scaling the jungle gym. These moments not only keep you fit but also help you feel capable and strong. -
Share What You Love
Never be ashamed of your interests, whether it’s playing with dolls or anything else that brings you joy. If someone teases you about your passions, they’re not a true friend. Remember, being yourself is what makes you special! -
It’s Okay to Disagree
Your voice matters! Don’t hesitate to express your thoughts, especially when you feel differently. Engaging in respectful conversations is part of growing up, and I want to hear your perspective, even if it challenges mine. -
You Are Beautiful
You are a unique blend of me and your dad, and it’s wonderful to see the person you’re becoming. I know society can make you feel otherwise, but please remember that your true beauty shines through your spirit and kindness. -
Keep Reading
Books are magical portals to other worlds. I hope you continue to dive into stories and connect with characters. That feeling of getting lost in a book? It stays with you forever—welcome to the club! -
You’re Your Own Person
While we share many similarities, you are your own unique individual. I recognize that as you grow, you’ll want to carve out your own path, and I support that journey. The bond we have may change, but it will grow in a new and beautiful way. -
It’s Usually Not About You
When others act in ways that hurt you, remember it’s often about their own struggles, not yours. I’m still learning this myself, but recognizing that can help ease the sting when people let you down. -
No One Can Be Your Everything
Be cautious about relying too heavily on one person to fulfill all your emotional needs. That empty feeling you sometimes sense is part of being human. It’s something I’m learning to accept, and I hope to help you embrace it too. -
I’m Doing My Best
I know I stumble sometimes. I can be impatient and quick to raise my voice, and for that, I’m truly sorry. Despite my flaws, my love for you and your brother is endless. I may not always like your actions, but my love for you is unwavering.
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In summary, I want Bella to know that she is loved, that her feelings are valid, and that life is about embracing who you are while navigating the complexities of relationships and self-discovery.