I was lounging on the couch, catching up on yet another episode of NCIS, when Abby delivered a line that made me pause: “Strong women know it’s okay to share the throne.” Suddenly, the show felt more profound than just a simple time killer. Abby’s words sparked a realization that’s often missing in popular culture—a celebration of women supporting one another instead of tearing each other down with petty rivalry and catfights. This reflection brought me back to a memorable encounter with the ex-girlfriend of my boyfriend, a conversation that changed my perspective on competition among women.
Her name was Jenna, a striking woman with flowing dark hair and captivating green eyes. A brilliant mathematician and an art enthusiast, she embodied confidence. At the time, I was working at a shelter for women in crisis, and I believed I had my own strengths. Despite the awkwardness of the situation, we managed to navigate it with mutual respect, recognizing the value in each other.
During our chat, Jenna shared that one of her students had earned a fellowship in Italy and would be studying abroad for a year. Without thinking, I blurted out my envy. Jenna quickly raised her wineglass as if toasting, declaring, “No! We should celebrate her achievements. When one of us wins, we all win!” It was a powerful moment that highlighted the essence of feminism—lifting each other up instead of competing against one another. I realized that when one woman thrives, it paves the way for all of us, regardless of our individual goals or paths.
Unfortunately, society often conditions us to compete for everything—from partners to careers, and even parenting accolades. This endless race leads us to critique each other’s choices—whether to marry, remain single, have children, or choose a child-free life. In the midst of this, we forget that every choice comes with its own share of challenges. Imagine how uplifting it would be if the women around us offered encouragement instead of judgment.
Today, I welcomed my fourth great-niece into the world. For her and for all girls growing up today, I sincerely wish we can foster a more supportive and nurturing environment than the one we currently have. We should turn off the media that glorifies female rivalry and instead create content that inspires connection and solidarity among women. As mothers, sisters, aunts, and friends, our actions should reflect the love and support that the next generation deserves. Because when we succeed together, we all thrive.
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In summary, Jenna’s empowering perspective taught me that competition among women can be transformed into celebration. We must embrace a culture of support, recognizing that each woman’s success contributes to the collective success of us all.