“Mom, what’s prawnstitution?”
And just like that, we dove into our very first honest conversation about sex, all thanks to an episode of Futurama. My son was 10 at the time, and until that moment, he had steered clear of any detailed discussions about the subject. I still remember when he asked my husband why Noah brought two of every animal onto the ark. When he learned it was to preserve the species, he quickly shut down further explanations with a resolute, “I don’t want to hear any more about this.”
But there we were, sharing a classic mother-son bonding moment in front of the TV. I realized it was the perfect opportunity to address this topic head-on. Who knows what kids are being taught in health class these days? I wanted to be ahead of the curve.
“Well, a prawn is a large shrimp, and prostitution is when people—usually women, but not always—exchange sex for money, not necessarily because they care for the person,” I explained.
He thought about it for a moment, and I encouraged him to ask me anything else that was on his mind.
“So, Nigel—” (I made up that name; my son doesn’t have any friends named Nigel)—“said something wild. He said that a penis gets really big and then goes INSIDE a vagina.”
Looks like Nigel is quite knowledgeable! I confirmed that he was indeed correct about the penis and vagina situation.
“Really!” he replied, sounding as if he just learned that a classmate had won a Nobel Prize.
He had more questions, and while the traditional “birds and the bees” talk is typically a father-son or mother-daughter affair, I decided to roll with the moment. I wanted to clarify any misunderstandings he might have, especially since it was Nigel—not health class—providing this crucial knowledge. I assured him that it’s perfectly normal to think about sex a lot, but also normal to not think about it at all. It’s all part of growing up.
We even touched on the surprise physical reactions boys can experience, perhaps triggered by a pretty girl on screen or even just out of the blue. I mentioned dreams too, which he seemed to find reassuring.
“Well THAT’s a relief,” he said, his eyes still glued to the TV as Zoidberg scuttled across the screen.
After a few minutes, he asked, “So how often do people have sex?”
That’s a big question! I told him it varies from person to person and opted not to delve into the complexities of long-term relationships or the initial excitement of new love.
“So, do you and Dad have sex?”
Here we go. It would’ve been easy to brush him off with a “none of your business” response, but I knew he was just looking for context.
“Um, yes. Yes, we do.”
“How often?”
Now, that was a tricky one. I remember when my own mom explained periods to me, and I just wanted to know what it actually felt like—was it a drip, a waterfall, or something else entirely?
“Um, a couple of days ago.”
“Really!” His tone suggested he was surprised but not judgmental.
I redirected the conversation back to him as we fell into a comfortable silence for a moment.
“You know, you can always talk to Dad about this stuff too,” I added.
“I think I’m good talking to you,” he replied.
“Alright then.”
“Can we keep watching Futurama?”
“Absolutely.”
And just like that, we wrapped up The Big Talk—my personal version of the birds and the bees.
When I was a child in the ’70s, there was a book called Show Me that attempted to educate kids about sex but ended up being quite controversial and frightening. I remember anxiously asking my mom when I would have to have sex, and her reassuring response was that it wouldn’t happen until I truly wanted it to. “Good!” I exclaimed. “Then I’m never going to.” How times have changed!
Now I strive to find that delicate balance between teaching my kids that sex is a normal, beautiful part of life while also emphasizing that they don’t need to worry about it just yet. In the back of my mind, I worry—are they asking their friends instead? Will they end up needing therapy because their curiosity about sex was sparked by a cartoon? Who knows? We’re all just figuring it out as we go.
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Summary
A humorous and candid recounting of a mother’s first conversation about sex with her young son, sparked by a Futurama episode. The discussion explores curiosity, misconceptions, and the importance of open communication in a world where kids often learn about sensitive topics from peers and media.