Growing up in the 70s and 80s, I had a pretty carefree childhood. My mother worked as a waitress at night, leaving me to fend for myself after school. I was a latchkey kid from around second grade, letting myself in and whipping up a quick sandwich while waiting for my older sister to return home. It was standard back then for kids my age to walk home from school together, and nobody batted an eye.
Summers were spent roaming the common areas of our condo complex, with the only adult supervision occurring when we were at the pool. There’s a nostalgic notion that back in the day, more parents were home to keep an eye on the neighborhood kids. In our condo complex, however, those parents must have been excellent at hiding because we were largely unsupervised. We knew our boundaries: don’t leave the complex, come running when called, and definitely don’t come home with injuries. We always respected those simple rules.
This style of parenting was just called “parenting.” Nowadays, we have a term for it: “Free Range Parenting.” Recently, this concept has been in the spotlight due to a family facing scrutiny from Child Protective Services and concerned neighbors for letting their kids roam a bit too freely. Their six and ten-year-old were picked up from a park because someone thought it was unsafe for them to be playing alone. The parents didn’t find out for three hours that their kids were being held.
Interestingly, the public response has been overwhelmingly in favor of the parents’ choice to grant their children independence. So, if so many are supportive, why don’t we see more kids playing outside unaccompanied? While I agree with the principles behind this parenting style, I find myself wondering if I would allow my own children that same freedom. The 24-hour news cycle has made us all a bit paranoid.
A recent analysis by The Washington Post highlighted just how much safer children are today compared to previous generations. Child mortality and homicide rates have dramatically decreased, with a child aged 5 to 14 today having about a 1 in 10,000 chance of dying prematurely. The number of reported missing children has plummeted by 40% since 1997, even as the population has grown by over 30%. Notably, only 0.1% of missing person cases involve what we typically think of as a “stranger abduction.”
So, why the fear? Why do some adults perceive children playing together in a park as a potential danger? It seems many of us have convinced ourselves that danger lurks around every corner, even when it’s not the case. How do we shift our mindset and allow our children the freedom they deserve? It’s clear that if it was safe enough for us to play outside alone as kids, it’s even safer for our kids now.
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In summary, it’s time we acknowledge that our children are living in a safer world than we did. As parents, we need to find the balance between safety and independence, allowing them to explore the world around them while understanding that the risks are now much lower than they once were.