Today, I noticed that my oldest son’s feet have outgrown mine, and I couldn’t help but feel a mix of pride and a little bit of panic. As a mom, one of my earliest realizations was that one day, someone I’ve yet to meet will have feelings for my son. It’s a huge responsibility to guide him in becoming a young man capable of love and affection. Now, as he approaches the tricky transition from boyhood to adolescence, I’m feeling that familiar blend of excitement and apprehension.
He’ll soon find himself navigating the complex world of relationships—experiencing everything from puppy love to heartbreak. I know I’ll be right there with him (even if I can’t show it). Today, my husband joked about kissing, and instead of fleeing in horror, our son raised an eyebrow and mentioned needing “practice.” My husband and I exchanged a knowing glance: the time has come.
As he embarks on this journey, I want to share some important insights. Here are 11 lessons I hope to impart to him about dating, relationships, and interacting with girls—some he can grasp now, and others will come with time.
- Kindness is Key: Always, and I mean always, be kind. There will be people—especially girls—who may like you more than you like them. You don’t have to be close friends with everyone, but treat others gently, as you would want someone to treat your little sister.
- Set Boundaries: Remember to maintain your identity. Don’t let anyone overshadow who you are. The right person will appreciate you for being your genuine self.
- Be Honest When Ending Things: If you ever need to break up with someone, do it directly. Don’t resort to being rude just to get them to end it first. Honesty is healthier for both of you.
- Respect All Women: Never refer to a girl or woman who has feelings for you as a “psycho.” Even if she is a bit intense, she saw something in you worth liking. The same goes for derogatory terms—show respect.
- Choose Wisely: Remember that everyone you date will either become an ex or a life partner. Choose carefully.
- Value Intelligence and Humor: Appreciate girls who are smart and can make you laugh. Looks are nice, but deep conversations and shared laughter are what really matter.
- Dress Decently: Please, for the love of all things good, pull up your pants! Take a cue from Justin Bieber—style is important, but so is cleanliness. Brush your teeth and wear deodorant! It’s a small ask, but it makes a world of difference.
- Understand Consent: “No” means no, period. This applies whether someone is sober or not. If a girl seems interested but you feel uncomfortable, it’s okay to say no. Respect yourself and her.
- Practice Thoughtful Generosity: Always tip well and give thoughtful gifts. It doesn’t have to be extravagant; it’s the thought that counts. Remembering important dates shows you care.
- Love Takes Work: Love isn’t just a feeling; it’s a commitment. It requires effort and patience. Don’t settle for less than you deserve, and don’t expect a relationship to be easy.
- Take the Leap: Don’t shy away from asking someone out because you’re afraid of rejection. A friend once told me he wishes he had taken more chances when he was younger. Remember, it’s better to try and face rejection than to live with regret.
Good luck, my sweet boy. Be kind, be brave, and whatever you do—don’t hold back!
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Summary
This article shares valuable lessons for a young boy as he begins to navigate the world of dating and relationships. From the importance of kindness and setting boundaries to understanding consent and valuing intelligence, these insights aim to guide him toward healthy, respectful connections with others.