So, you’re thinking of visiting that new mom in your life? That’s fantastic! However, before you knock on the door, here are some essential guidelines to ensure your visit is a delightful experience for both of you. Spoiler alert: it’s not about that fancy care package filled with baby essentials. Trust me, I know from experience!
- Thou Shalt Bring Food. You might think that if there’s a meal train set up for me, I’m good to go. But let me tell you, I’m always hungry! I just went through the marathon of childbirth, and I’m still running on empty. So, bring breakfast, lunch, or even snacks like muddy buddies—don’t assume I’m on some diet!
- Thou Shalt Compliment My Looks. Yes, I know I resemble a tired potato, but please, for the love of all things holy, tell me I look fabulous! I might not believe you, but I need to hear it. I’m knee-deep in self-doubt, and a little boost can go a long way.
- Thou Shalt Entertain My Other Kids. If I have older children, do me a favor and take them for a bit. Watching them swarm my tiny baby is like watching a horror movie unfold. I love them dearly but right now, I need to focus on my new little one (and those muddy buddies).
- Thou Shalt Clean Up. Just dive in without asking me how you can help. Tackle the dishes, make the bed—whatever floats your boat! Just maybe steer clear of the laundry; I don’t need you sifting through my unmentionables.
- Thou Shalt Let Me Control the Story. If I want to share my birth story, great! If not, please read the room. A simple “How did it go?” will suffice, and I’ll lead you down the path of storytelling if I’m feeling chatty.
- Thou Shalt Not One-Up My Birth Story. So your friend’s cousin birthed her baby in a hot air balloon? Great for her! Today, my tale is the star of the show. Childbirth is tough no matter how it happens, and I want my moment in the spotlight.
- Thou Shalt Not Judge My Birth Choices. Hormones are running wild, and I’m likely to think you’re judging me for every decision I’ve made. So please, be kind and supportive. Reassure me that I’m doing great, and I’ll believe you.
- Thou Shalt Not Critique My Parenting Methods. I know parenting choices can be touchy. So, unless you genuinely believe my baby is in danger, keep your opinions to yourself. Your facial expressions can be more damaging than you think, so be aware!
- Thou Shalt Offer Advice Only When Asked. Even if you’ve got a PhD in Baby Studies (which, let’s face it, doesn’t exist), I’m the expert on my little one. I might need help, but don’t assume I want your wisdom unless I ask for it.
- Thou Shalt Not Decide When I’m Ready to Be Normal Again. News flash: there’s no strict timeline for recovery after becoming a mom. I’ll let you know when I’m ready for the world, and until then, I appreciate your patience and understanding.
So there you have it! Following these commandments will make you the superstar of the new mom’s world. And while you’re at it, check out this resource on intrauterine insemination for more insights into pregnancy. If you’re looking to embark on your own journey, consider visiting Make a Mom for expert advice. And if you’re curious about home insemination techniques, don’t miss this post on intracervical insemination.
Summary: Visiting a new mom? Remember these 10 guidelines! Bring food, compliment her, entertain older kids, and keep the judgments to yourself. Your support will be appreciated more than you know.