Hey there, soon-to-be-moms! First off, congrats on your exciting journey into parenthood! You’ve already had your moment in the spotlight, with all the attention, themed baby showers, and a flurry of kindness from friends and family—think delivered meals, laundry help, and the like. Now, you’re considering throwing a party that’s, surprise!—yet another celebration all about you. It’s all part of the latest trend in our culture of self-promotion and self-admiration.
This new phenomenon? The gender reveal party. It seems to fit right alongside other self-centered milestones like selfies (because who doesn’t love another glimpse of you in your car or bathroom?), prom-posals (kudos to you for a two-year relationship and an elaborate invitation), and various award ceremonies that celebrate the bare minimum.
A quick search online will reveal a treasure trove of ideas for your pink-and-blue extravaganza, with tips from seasoned moms and party planners on how to unveil the gender of your little one to your closest 60 friends and family members. If you’re contemplating hosting this “all-about-me” bash under the guise of it being for the baby, here’s a little food for thought on this trend.
At your gathering, some of you might feign surprise as you reveal the big news, while others may have already received the verdict from your OB and are just waiting for the grand display. Guests will engage in the usual party chit-chat, peppering you with questions like, “What do you think it is?” or “If you’re craving sweets, it must be a girl!” They’ll eat, drink, and mingle amid a sea of pink and blue decorations.
When the moment finally arrives, you’ll dazzle your guests with the big reveal in various ways—cutting into a cake to expose pink or blue filling, releasing helium balloons, or even popping a confetti-filled balloon. There are a million adorable ways to dramatize this moment, all designed to elicit gasps and cheers from your audience.
But here’s a little secret: Most of your friends and family probably already have a good guess as to whether you’re having a boy or a girl. They will be excited no matter how you choose to share the news. A recent photo from my niece, showing her sonogram and a cute sign that read “It’s a girl!” was more than enough for me. We celebrated over the phone—no party necessary!
Now, don’t get me wrong; I adore babies. They have this magical ability to reduce me to a puddle of goo. I’ve had my share of little ones, and believe me, I would welcome more if I could just snuggle and then pass them along once they hit age four. The joy of new life is extraordinary, and becoming a parent is truly transformative.
I’ll shower you with affection during your pregnancy, bringing treats, listening to your joys and worries, and supporting you in any way I can. Your loved ones will likely host a shower to ensure you have everything you need and more. You are the star of this show, and you should be celebrated!
But here’s the question: can you let that be enough? Can you accept the genuine goodwill of those around you without needing a grand spectacle? Will you allow us to celebrate you and your little miracle without the added pressure of a big reveal party?
I really want to know if I should buy pink or blue yarn for your baby’s blanket. Just don’t make me find out in a room full of people. If you’re tempted by this trendy party idea, do me a favor: just call me.
In conclusion, while I’m all about celebrating the precious little ones entering our lives, the gender reveal party just doesn’t do it for me.