So, the idea of community college as a viable plan is a real step forward, not just a quick fix—hurray for that! But it got me thinking: with the glaring absence of family-friendly policies like paid parental leave and sick days, American parenting feels like a series of band-aid solutions. Here are seven common “quick fixes” we encounter while navigating the parenting maze:
Problem: I’m pregnant and need health care.
Quick Fix: Do you have health insurance? No? Time to dive into a rabbit hole of research to find the cheapest plan that meets your needs, or see if you qualify for Medicaid. Then, figure out which doctors and hospitals are in-network, while juggling the nausea of early pregnancy. Oh, and good luck battling surprise bills—like when your hospital is in-network but your anesthesiologist isn’t. Just what every new parent needs, right?
Problem: I’ve just had a baby and need time to recover.
Quick Fix: Oops, no maternity leave for you! If you’re lucky enough to have sick and vacation days, start hoarding them. Go to work sick to save your days for when you really need them. Or, take unpaid leave, or quit—because let’s face it, you might get laid off anyway.
Problem: I need my partner’s help after having a baby.
Quick Fix: Too bad—they probably don’t have any parental leave either! If you’re fortunate, they’ve saved a few vacation days to use while you’re in the hospital. But soon enough, you’ll be home alone, perhaps just days after a C-section, and possibly juggling an older child too. So, how about you patch this up with some quality time with Sesame Street and maybe a handful of Percocet? Rinse and repeat until you feel like yourself again, or until the Percocet becomes your new best friend.
Problem: You have a job and need childcare, but it’s pricey.
Quick Fix: Is your mother-in-law free one day a week? How about your mom for half a day, and your dad for the other half? And can you coordinate a nanny share for two days? Just remember: one of these caregivers will cancel at the last minute, leaving you to “work from home”—which translates to sneaking in a conference call while taking someone’s temperature.
Problem: Your kid often gets sick, but you lack paid sick days.
Quick Fix: Send your child to school anyway, where they’ll spread their illness to everyone, leading to a school shutdown. Congratulations, now you’re on the Today Show for being part of “the sickest school in America,” all while you lost your job because you had to stay home with your little germ factory.
Problem: The school day ends at 3:15, but most jobs are 9 to 5 or longer.
Quick Fix: Hire an art student from the local MFA program to pick up your child, assuming they can make it, which depends on their inspiration or the train schedule. You can also pay for camps during breaks or bring your child to work—again leaning on family and friends for help. After all, they’ve only babysat during every school break imaginable.
Problem: The public school is just okay. How do you ensure a decent education?
Quick Fix: Go bankrupt moving to a better district, switch to a charter school, or try for a voucher. Your options are limited to any of the above—each of which is not really a great solution.
Problem: You want your child to go to college, but tuition is outrageous.
Quick Fix: Make small contributions to a 529 Plan if you can, along with scholarships and financial aid, which takes endless research. And let’s not forget the six-figure debt that will tie your kid to a life of crummy jobs unless they miraculously create the next big app to solve it all. Maybe they’ll call it “Quick Fix.”
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Summary
American parenting often relies on quick fixes due to the lack of supportive policies, from healthcare during pregnancy to childcare after birth. Parents face numerous challenges, ranging from inadequate maternity leave to unaffordable education. While we navigate these hurdles, we often find ourselves piecing together temporary solutions rather than receiving the support we truly need.