“Can you please just stop saying no!” my frustrated daughter cries out.
“Um…no,” I respond, treading carefully, bracing for the inevitable storm of emotions that follows.
We were at the playground, and what I envisioned as a delightful afternoon quickly transformed into a battleground where my roles as a mother and a referee collided. My dream of lounging on a bench, flipping through a magazine while my kids played joyfully, was replaced with a symphony of “No, don’t climb that! No, don’t touch those baby rabbits! No, we can’t have ice cream right now. No, you can’t go home with that boy you just met.” The list of “no’s” seemed endless, and my daughter’s exasperation echoed the thoughts rattling in my head: “Can you please stop saying no?”
I suspect many parents can relate to this struggle. My days are filled with “No, you can’t eat that,” when dealing with my toddler, and “No, we can’t do that,” when it’s my first grader’s turn. It often feels like I’m in a perpetual state of denial—of their wants, at least.
While I don’t particularly relish saying “no,” and trust me, my kids definitely don’t enjoy it, I find a strange sense of contentment in it. My primary responsibility is to protect them, guide them, and help mold them into remarkable adults. They live in the moment, yearning to disregard all rules, devour everything in sight, and perhaps run around with abandon. But sometimes, the answer has to be “no,” and that’s just how it is.
I do feel a twinge of guilt when they can’t have what they desire, but I also know that sometimes, tough love is necessary. They may not grasp the significance of my decisions now, but one day, they’ll understand. I’m honored to be their mom, and part of that role involves ensuring they receive what they need, even if it means they might resent me for it in the present.
So, when my daughter asks, “Can you please stop saying no?” I’ll respond with a loving “No, because I care about you.”
Further Reading
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Summary
Parenting often involves saying “no,” and while it can lead to frustration for both parents and children, it’s a necessary part of guiding kids towards becoming responsible adults. Balancing their wants with their needs is crucial, and though they may not appreciate it now, they will in time.