We’ve all had that one friend—the one who was there for us through thick and thin, but now, let’s face it, may not be the same person we once knew. Perhaps you met during your wild 20s, but as you both transitioned into your 30s, life took you in different directions. Maybe you bonded over diaper disasters at playgroup, but now that your kids are in kindergarten, the connection feels less vibrant. Or perhaps you find yourself cringing at her parenting choices and would rather endure a dentist appointment than a playdate with her.
No matter the backstory, friendships can either fizzle out or need a serious reassessment. Sometimes, it’s necessary to take a cue from Elsa and “let it go.” But how can you determine whether it’s just a rough patch or the end of the road? Before making any rash decisions, take a moment to reflect on these five questions:
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When Was the Last Time You Had Fun Together?
If your last memorable adventure was a decade ago—like that hilarious night at a dubious club—it might be time to reconsider your connection. Think about the last time you both carved out time for a chat or shared a drink. If it feels like ancient history, your friendship could be on life support. -
How Did You Find Out Her Latest Big News?
The way you learn about your friend’s life updates can reveal a lot about your current standing. Did she share her pregnancy news with you in person, or did you discover it through a casual Facebook update? If you’re often out of the loop, it’s a sign that your closeness might be waning. -
What’s Your Reaction to Hearing Her Name?
Be honest: Does her name make you cringe or roll your eyes? If you find yourself feeling tense or avoiding her at the grocery store, it’s likely that the friendship has eroded more than you’d like to admit. Sometimes, we cling to the past, hoping for a revival that simply isn’t in the cards anymore. -
Would You Still Be Friends If You Met Today?
In this digital age, it’s easy to confuse online connections with real-life friendships. Consider how you would feel about her if you met her for the first time now. If the thought of a face-to-face encounter doesn’t excite you, that’s a telling sign. -
Is She One of Your ‘Left-Hand Friends’?
Remember when your mom said true friends are few and far between? Those “Left-Hand Friends” are the ones who show up at your door with snacks after a tough day or answer your late-night calls without hesitation. If you have to think twice about whether she qualifies, it might be time to reevaluate the friendship.
Ending a friendship can be tough, and it’s a reality many of us dread. However, sometimes letting go is necessary to prioritize those essential Left-Hand Friends who truly matter. So, grab a glass of wine and take some time to reflect—you might have some calls to make or cocktails to pour!
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In summary, recognizing when a friendship has run its course can be challenging, but asking yourself these important questions can provide clarity. It’s all about surrounding yourself with the right people who uplift and support you.