Have you ever thought that sometimes, holding back on compliments might actually come from a place of love? In her book, Lucy Adams shares a compelling story about how our perspectives can shift the way we see things. She writes about feeling a little hurt that her mom never told her she was beautiful, which many of us can relate to. But then, she brings in the perspective of Saint Claire, who had a very different take on her upbringing.
Saint Claire lost her mother at a young age, and her older sister, particularly her sister Maria, took on the role of caregiver. In her reflections, Saint Claire noted, “You made sure I was shielded from anything that could harm my innocence, including words that might plant the seed of vanity in my heart.” It’s fascinating how she interpreted a lack of praise as a form of love and protection.
As I dive into the topic of happiness, I find myself inspired by those who choose to respond with love, forgiveness, or understanding, even in tough situations. Lucy highlights how Saint Claire viewed the absence of compliments as a sign of caring, which is one interpretation among many, but it’s the one she embraced.
I must admit, I struggle in this area. Too often, I find myself sulking about perceived slights. Sometimes, I even revel in that feeling of resentment, instead of flipping the script and searching for other meanings.
This reminds me of a wise observation from writer Marissa Lee, who once said, “During your teenage years, it’s easy to be sensitive to the flaws of others. But true growth comes from not being easily offended and trying to understand through a lens of kindness.” Seeking to understand actions in a more charitable way is a choice we can all make.
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In summary, reframing our perceptions, especially regarding the lack of compliments, can lead to a deeper understanding of love and care. It’s all about how we choose to interpret those moments in our lives.