We all know what to expect during pregnancy, but what happens after? Is the transition to parenting tougher because we’re left to imagine what it truly entails? Before welcoming a child into your life, it’s common to have preconceived notions about parenting—many of which can be vastly different from reality. For instance, I once vowed to provide my kids with a pristine, healthy diet, only to find myself Googling “do pickles count as a vegetable?”
Parenthood is full of surprises, and there are some things I wish I had grasped before diving into this adventure. Here are a few insights that might ease your path into parenting:
1. You’re Not as Savvy as You Think
Before I became a parent, I had the confidence of a seasoned expert (oh, how I wish I could go back and give my past self a good shake). With countless nieces and nephews and years of babysitting under my belt, I thought I knew it all. I took classes on child development in college, volunteered at a daycare, and even worked as a preschool teacher. I was ready!
But nothing can prepare you for the reality of parenting your own child. The decisions you make feel monumental, and you’ll find yourself inundated with advice—some of it useful, much of it absurd. As you navigate the complexities of different personalities and situations, keep this in mind: parenting is mostly trial and error. Approach it with an open mind, and don’t be too hard on yourself when mistakes happen; everyone messes up sometimes.
2. Kids Aren’t as Delicate as They Seem
When my first child was born, I was overly protective, shielding him from every little thing. Fast forward to my fourth child, and I was much more relaxed. I brought him home, plopped him in a beanbag on the living room floor, and let his siblings entertain him. Sure, they poked and prodded, but he turned out just fine!
The internet is rife with horror stories, but take them with a grain of salt (and maybe stop Googling everything, as that’s a surefire way to send yourself into a panic). Trust your instincts and allow your kids to explore their world. Your intuition knows more about their needs than any article ever could.
3. Missing Your Old Life is Normal
At some point, you may find yourself knee-deep in toys and baby mess, wishing for the simplicity of your pre-parental life. When a childless friend casually mentions their carefree evening plans, you might feel a pang of jealousy. It’s okay to miss those days and, believe it or not, it doesn’t make you a bad parent. Loving your kids doesn’t mean you can’t long for a little ‘me time’ now and then.
4. Prepare for a Shift in Priorities
As a parent, you might find your personal indulgences taking a backseat. Kids can be expensive, and unless you’re swimming in disposable income, your budget for self-care will likely shrink. Whether it’s regular haircuts, manicures, or new clothes, you’ll find yourself prioritizing the needs of your little ones over your own. It’s perfectly fine to adjust your expectations, but remember to carve out some time for yourself as well.
5. Your Tolerance for Grossness Will Skyrocket
If you had a squeamish nature before becoming a parent, prepare for a crash course in dealing with the messy realities of child-rearing. From diaper blowouts to unexpected vomit incidents, you’ll quickly learn to handle the unexpected. By the time your toddler brings you their latest “treasure,” you’ll have transformed into a seasoned pro who can handle anything—just don’t forget to say, “Don’t bleed on the carpet!”
Parenthood is full of surprises, and these insights are just the beginning of what you’ll learn along the way. The more we understand what’s coming, the better equipped we’ll be to tackle the challenges ahead. And trust me, nothing can prepare you for discovering a water gun filled with rancid pee hidden in the closet.
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Summary
Embarking on the adventure of parenthood is both exciting and overwhelming. It’s important to recognize that you may not know as much as you think, that your children are tougher than they appear, and that it’s perfectly normal to miss your former life. As you adjust to the changes and challenges, remember to prioritize self-care and embrace the messiness of it all. Parenthood is a journey filled with surprises, and it’s one that you’ll navigate with love and laughter.