As the back-to-school season approaches, it feels a lot like January—a time for fresh commitments and aspirations, but this time, it’s all about education. Each year, I find myself making the same promises: punctuality for school, keeping track of permission slips, and preparing lunches the night before (spoiler alert: it often doesn’t happen!). This fall, however, I’m adding a few new resolutions, and with a bit more wisdom under my belt, I’m ready to tackle them head-on.
1. Embracing the Power of NO.
After twelve years of navigating the school system with kids in various grades, I’m officially over the eager-beaver phase. Gone are the days when I was the enthusiastic kindergarten mom, raising my hand for every volunteer opportunity. Now, I’m part of the seasoned parent crowd, the ones who often find solace in the corners, too exhausted to engage. We’ve learned that saying “No” is a beautiful thing, and honestly? We don’t care what anyone thinks anymore. So, to all the newbie parents out there, feel free to take over the class parties—my yoga mat is calling.
2. Letting My Kids Own the Mornings.
I admit, I have high hopes for my children managing their own morning routines. It’s a tall order, especially when I know my presence typically turns the chaos into a well-orchestrated event (or a screaming match). But this time around, I’m determined to step back, keep quiet, and trust that they can wake up, eat breakfast, and get ready for school without my constant intervention. Just imagine—no frantic voice shouting for them to get moving! We can totally do this…at least until Halloween rolls around!
3. Allowing My Teens to Chart Their Own Paths.
As my oldest entered high school, I had a laundry list of expectations for his classes and future career. But guess what? He’s capable of discovering his own passions, even if they don’t align with my dreams for him. He’s not going to be the next math genius or science whiz, but he’s found a love for English and teaching. As he embarks on this journey, I realize it’s time to step back and let him make decisions about his future—after all, he’ll be the one sitting with the college advisor, not me.
4. No More Project Help.
Let’s face it: we all know when a project is parent-made. I’ve got four kids, and I’m well-practiced in the art of avoidance when it comes to school assignments. So, when the inevitable “Mom, I need help!” comes, my response is simple: “It looks like you’re in a bit of a bind. Good luck!” Even when I’m tempted to swoop in and save the day, I’ll resist the urge. Better to learn the hard lesson now than in high school when it really counts.
5. Cherishing My Youngest’s Elementary Years.
While I might be the “over it” mom, I’m determined not to let my youngest feel that way. He deserves the same enthusiasm and celebration that his older siblings received. It’s easy to let those milestones slip by without the same excitement, but I’m committing to making his early school experiences memorable. Whether it’s dressing up for “Saint Day” or attending Christmas plays, I vow to show up with the same joy and energy I had for my first child. After all, who knows? Maybe I’ve saved the best experiences for last.
In summary, as we head into another school year, I’m focusing on personal growth and letting go of the reins a bit. I’m excited for what’s ahead and ready to embrace these challenges with a renewed spirit.