There are folks who insist that their intimate lives remained unchanged after welcoming children, while others claim they’ve gotten even more adventurous once their little bundles of joy arrived. Honestly, I find that hard to believe.
Don’t get me wrong; I enjoy some quality time under the sheets just like anyone else. But the idea that having kids doesn’t impact your sex life seems far-fetched to me. Unless, of course, you weren’t particularly active before having kids—and if that’s the case, I genuinely sympathize. But perhaps that’s the secret: if you keep expectations low, you might find yourself pleasantly surprised!
Let’s not focus on the skeptics and dive into the heart of the matter: becoming a parent fundamentally alters your sex life. While I’m no relationship guru, I can identify five distinct phases that couples traverse in their bedroom escapades:
- The Dating Phase: Ah, the sweet memories of early romance. Remember when every moment together felt electric? I think I spent the first six months with my partner, Alex, sporting “JBF” hair—what’s that, you ask? “Just Been…” you can fill in the blank!
- Cohabitation: This stage starts off thrilling—after all, most of your dates concluded with a steamy night. Naturally, you think you’ll be at it every night now. Spoiler alert: that’s not quite how it goes!
- The “Trying” Phase: This is the exhilarating period when you decide to ditch birth control. Suddenly, it’s like you’re transported back to the Dating Phase, and everything is wonderful. For about a month. But as the weeks drag on without a positive test, your intimate encounters can start to feel more like a (mostly fun) experiment.
- Pregnancy Bliss: When you first learn you’re expecting, it’s pure joy! But then, morning sickness hits, and suddenly, the thought of intimacy isn’t quite as appealing. The silver lining? By the second trimester, you might feel better, but many partners find it hard to get in the mood when your belly is on the rise. Something about “not wanting to poke the baby” really plays on their minds (classic male ego).
- The “Never Again” Phase: Once you hit this stage, your intimate life is forever altered. Scheduling intimacy around nap times and bedtimes becomes the new norm, and the slightest sound from the baby can immediately kill the mood.
I’m sure there are even more phases to this wild ride, but my partner and I haven’t reached them yet. I have a feeling that once our little one starts school in a couple of years, we might just find ourselves reliving those carefree days—maybe even indulging in the occasional noon rendezvous again.
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In summary, while the journey through parenthood can bring its challenges, understanding these phases can help couples navigate their intimate lives more effectively. And for those interested in more on this topic, don’t miss our post on the intricacies of home insemination.