I see you, over there, shaking your head as my son has a spirited discussion with me in the grocery store. I notice you grimacing and rolling your eyes when he doesn’t quite follow society’s rulebook for public behavior. I see you advising your child to steer clear of mine, labeling him a “problem kid” or “disrespectful.”
But here’s the thing—my son is blissfully unaware of your judgment. He’s too busy being himself to worry about what others think, while I, on the other hand, can’t help but see the disdain etched on your face.
Do you really believe I can’t see you? Do you think that my love for my child somehow pales in comparison to yours because he’s unique? Do you feel superior because your child doesn’t have the same challenges mine faces?
It’s incredibly difficult for me to hold back when I witness you judging him. I want to shout, “Hey! I see you judging us!” But unlike my son, who thrives on honesty, I hesitate to create a scene. More importantly, I want to shield him from the harsh reality that some people will see him as lacking. He’s perfectly happy just as he is, and I want to keep that innocence intact for as long as possible.
Every person has their own struggles; perfection is a myth. Perhaps your flaw is the tendency to judge others.
There’s so much about my son that you don’t know. You might not see how deeply he loves me, without any conditions. You don’t realize that he’s fiercely protective of those he cares about, and it would crush him to learn that you’ve upset me. He’s an excellent student, achieving great grades, and while he can be a handful at times, he remains my child, and I adore him just as he is. He has a humor that often leaves me in stitches, and he feels emotions more deeply than most—both joy and sorrow.
But you don’t see any of this because you’re too focused on the fact that he talks a little too loud or gets distracted by a speck of fuzz on his shirt. Because of these small things, you’ve decided he’s a “bad kid,” unworthy of your time or attention.
Well, guess what? You’re not worthy of mine either.
He is genuine, compassionate, and always striving to be his best self without wasting time judging others. He’s too busy enjoying life to care about societal expectations. Don’t you wish you could say the same?
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In summary, let’s remember that everyone has their own battles, and it’s important to embrace our differences with compassion rather than judgment.