After countless chats with fellow stay-at-home parents (SAHPs) at the park, I’ve realized that our struggles often mirror each other’s. This handy list is designed for our partners to foster family harmony because, let’s face it, when the SAHP is content, everyone benefits. So, partner parents, let’s steer clear of these phrases…
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“Wow. The place is a bit chaotic.”
Really? I’ve tidied up this space three times today alone. Those toy trains have been shuffled in and out of baskets, and the Legos have seen more action than a blockbuster movie. You know, I even sacrificed part of my precious 22 minutes of peace during nap time to tidy up! Meanwhile, are you aware of where the toy cars actually belong? Instead of commenting, how about you pick up a cleaning cloth and lend a hand while entertaining the kids? I’ll be taking a quick break… in the bathroom. -
“What exactly did you do all day?”
If another SAHP tosses that question my way, I might joke, “Nothing.” But when you ask, it implies I’m lounging around watching daytime dramas. Honestly, how do I explain the endless rounds of train tracks and Lego castles? It’s a wonder the kids are glued to their tablets whenever you’re around—never happens with me! -
“You seem to be raising your voice a lot.”
Oh, really? I challenge you to spend hours wrangling energetic little ones while repeatedly saying, “Let’s get your shoes on.” After a few wardrobe malfunctions, and chasing a giggling, half-dressed child around the house, see if your voice stays calm by 5:30 PM! -
“I just need 10 minutes to unwind when I get home.”
Oh, really? On your way home, how about you swing by a café, or a place for pottery, and take that time for yourself? Until the kids are sound asleep, silence is a luxury you won’t get. Just saying! -
“Didn’t you manage to pick up those ________ today?”
(Supply your own: cleaning supplies, snacks, etc.) Seriously? The item you could have grabbed on your way to work or during a break? Please don’t ask me what I did all day (see #2) because I definitely did NOT take the little tornado to the store for that. The kids are alive, let’s just focus on that! -
“You should take a break and get a babysitter.”
No kidding. I was fine until you called saying you’d be late, and that’s when I lost my cool. It’s not about needing a babysitter; it’s about you managing your time better. Got it? -
“When was the last time you showered?”
Um, seriously? Just… don’t. -
“Maybe you could turn it into a game.”
Oh, so you think toddler meltdowns simply vanish if I “make it fun”? They’ll willingly share toys and clean up messes just because I turned it into a game? By the end of the day, I’m all for cutting out the games and just getting things done before bedtime! -
“Do you think you might need a haircut?”
Funny how I haven’t had a chance to look in the mirror lately. Why don’t you schedule that for me? And, um… reference #7.
Feel free to share your own tips for keeping SAHPs happy below—my little one just discovered a box of matches, so I better run!
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Summary
This article humorously outlines nine questions that partners should avoid asking stay-at-home parents to maintain a peaceful household. It emphasizes understanding and empathy while providing a light-hearted take on the daily challenges SAHPs face. The overall message is about appreciating the hard work involved in parenting and fostering a supportive environment.