Let’s be real: we all have our quirks as parents. Maybe it’s time to shake things up a bit for your own peace of mind and to strengthen your bond with your kids. Here are ten habits you might want to reconsider—like, yesterday.
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Critiquing Other Parents
We’ve all been there, haven’t we? There’s the parent who shouts at their child in the grocery store or the one who opts for takeout every night. Sure, they could make different choices, but instead of focusing on their shortcomings, let’s celebrate your own parenting wins. Acknowledge your successes and let the rest slide! -
Negative Self-Dialogue
Ever catch yourself saying something unkind about yourself? “I’m such a mess!” or “I can’t believe I forgot that!” Our children absorb our attitudes. If they hear us belittling ourselves, they might start doing the same. Be gentle with yourself—your kids are watching, and they need to see you model self-love. -
Living in Distraction Land
When was the last time you spent quality time with your kids without your phone in hand? Technology is a double-edged sword; while it keeps us connected, it can also create barriers. Establish tech-free zones or times—maybe after dinner—and reconnect through conversation or fun activities. You might be surprised by the joy that unfolds! -
Speaking Ill of Loved Ones
Even if your ex, your siblings, or your child’s teacher drive you up the wall, keep those thoughts to yourself when your kids are around. They need to love their role models without feeling conflicted. Keeping conversations between adults is a gift to your children’s emotional well-being. -
Micromanaging Everything
It’s natural to want to shield our kids from failure or disappointment, but trying to control every aspect of their lives can lead to rebellion. Let them make mistakes; it’s how they learn and grow. Give them room to breathe and experience life on their own terms. -
Overdocumenting Life
I know I might get some flak for this, but consider taking fewer photos. It’s great to capture special moments, but sometimes it’s better to just be present. I once saw a parent filming an entire event through her tablet, and I thought, “She’s missing out!” Live in the moment; your memories will be richer for it. -
Always Saying Yes
It’s tempting to give in to every request, whether it’s toys or treats, especially if you want to make your child happy. But go easy on the “yeses.” Setting limits now will help them appreciate what they have and teach them that “no” is an acceptable answer. -
Staying in Your Comfort Zone
If you’re not a fan of roller coasters or sushi, it’s easy to project that onto your kids. Break out of your comfort zone and try new things together. You may discover new interests and help your kids grow more adventurous in the process. -
Faking Quality Time
Ever find yourself “enjoying” movie night while scrolling through your phone? Kids can sense when you’re not fully engaged. Make a commitment to be present during your shared activities. After all, the memories you create together are much more valuable than any social media post. -
Forget to Say ‘I Love You’
Those three little words can be hard to say, especially if you didn’t grow up hearing them often. But let your children know they are loved—both through actions and words. It’s never too late, even for adult children, to express love and appreciation.
In summary, every parent has room for growth. By letting go of these ten habits, you can create a more fulfilling environment for yourself and your kids. For more tips on parenting and family dynamics, check out our other blog posts, like this one on home insemination kits for those exploring family building. You can also find great information on boosting fertility supplements at Make A Mom. For anyone interested in fertility treatments, the UCSF resource on IVF is excellent.