I see you over there, shaking your head as my son, Max, passionately debates with me in the grocery store. I catch the eye roll when he doesn’t follow the unwritten rules of how kids should act in public. I see you whispering to your child, warning him to steer clear of my son because, in your mind, he’s a “problem child.”
Here’s the thing: Max doesn’t even notice you. He’s too busy being himself to worry about what others think. But I see you—I see the judgment etched on your face.
Understanding the Struggles
Do you really think I’m blind to your disdain? Do you believe that somehow I love my child any less than you love yours just because Max is uniquely him? Do you think your family is superior because you face different challenges?
It’s tough for me to stay silent when I see you casting judgment on my boy. There’s a part of me that wants to stand up and shout, “Hey! I see you judging us!” But unlike Max, I hold back, not wanting to make a scene. More importantly, I’d prefer he never realizes that some people look down on him. He’s blissfully happy and comfortable in his own skin, and I want to protect that innocence for as long as possible.
Every person has their own struggles; perfection is a myth. Maybe your flaw is the need to judge others.
The Depth of Max’s Character
You don’t see the depth of Max’s character. You don’t know that he loves deeply, protects fiercely, and would be heartbroken to know your actions upset me. You miss the fact that he excels in school, often brings laughter into our home, and feels emotions more intensely than most.
All you perceive is that he talks too loudly, gets distracted by the tiniest things, and wears his heart on his sleeve. Because of these traits, you’ve labeled him a “bad kid,” unworthy of your time or attention.
Well, guess what? You’re not worth my time either.
Max’s True Nature
Max is honest, empathetic, and full of compassion. He strives to be the best version of himself and doesn’t waste time looking down on others. He’s enjoying life, soaking in every experience, and you could learn a thing or two from that attitude.
Wouldn’t it be nice if you could say the same?
Resources for Understanding
For more insights on parenting and self-acceptance, check out this excellent resource on treating infertility at ACOG. And if you’re curious about the world of home insemination, you might find valuable information at this guide on at-home insemination kits.
Conclusion
In summary, let’s remember that every child is unique and deserving of love. Instead of judgment, let’s foster understanding and celebrate the differences that make us who we are.