To my dear daughter, when you reach the age of eighteen (which feels like eons away):
Hey there, little one! It’s me, your mom—the same person you probably adored not too long ago but now might be rolling your eyes at every chance you get. If you’re anything like the rebellious teenager I was, we’re probably not having the best of conversations right now, and you’re definitely not hanging on my every word of wisdom.
As I sit here thinking about the chaos that will ensue when you hit puberty just as I’m in the midst of menopause, I figured I’d better jot down some advice before we both end up in our own corners, not speaking. But hey, if by some miracle we’re best friends, I’ll just share these thoughts over a pint of ice cream and hand you this letter for keepsakes.
Before you spread your wings and fly the nest (while I’m locked in the bathroom sobbing softly into my favorite wine), I want to share some nuggets of wisdom to help you navigate your early adulthood before reality starts to kick in.
Indulge Every Now and Then
First off, indulge every now and then! Some of my most cherished memories come from nights out with friends, maybe having one too many drinks. Just promise me you won’t do anything reckless while enjoying yourself: no solo midnight strolls, driving under the influence, or hooking up with some charming stranger—even if they’re drop-dead gorgeous. Trust me, that “hottie” might come with a side of STDs that you don’t want to deal with the next day!
Treasure Your Friendships
Speaking of friends, treasure those relationships in your twenties. You’ll find yourself going out more, sharing laughs, and enjoying lazy days on someone’s couch. As you age, those carefree moments will become fewer and far between. Sure, diaper duty can bring you closer to a friend, but it’s not quite the same as the hilarity of a late-night adventure!
Career Path Considerations
Now, let’s chat about your career path. Sure, finding a job you love is crucial, but here’s something the career advisors might not share. If you envision a future with a partner and little ones, consider a career that offers some flexibility. You don’t want to be stuck in a job that demands all your time. Sure, a full-time heart surgeon sounds impressive, but is grandma going to be thrilled about babysitting while you’re saving lives?
Dating and Relationships
And, just a side note, I mentioned “one day you want to get married.” I didn’t say you need to find a husband—if you’ve got other plans, just be upfront about it. Trust me, your dad would prefer to be kept in the loop about your dating life, especially with his protective instincts!
As you navigate the dating scene—whether with guys or gals—you’ll encounter some not-so-great folks. They might ghost you or break your heart, but remember, every experience teaches you something vital about what you truly want in a partner. One day, when gravity starts to take its toll, you’ll want someone who sees your beauty inside and out, no matter what.
Always Here for You
Lastly, even if we’re not on speaking terms right now, always remember, I’m here for you. You can share anything with me—seriously, anything. I might want to strangle you sometimes, but I promise, I’ll always support you. Whether it’s with a drink when you’re of age or a sweet treat before that, I’ve got your back. Love you lots!
XOXOXO
Love, Mom (Or whatever you’re calling me these days—maybe just “the annoying one.”)