I can still picture that moment vividly. My partner kissed us goodbye, and as the door gently clicked shut, I stood there, a mix of excitement and dread washing over me. My toddler was darting around my legs while I held a fussy baby in my arms. The rain tapped rhythmically against the windows. As I heard the car pull away, it struck me—this was it. I had officially stepped into the role of a stay-at-home mom. The title “SAHM” felt like it was branded on my forehead.
I glanced at the clock: 8:32 AM. What was I supposed to do now? Panic set in. How was I going to fill the day with an infant and a two-year-old? I rummaged through the closet with one hand and grabbed the play dough bin. Okay, I can handle this… right? (Cue the cheerful wink and grin). After all, I managed a classroom of 25 kids before—two should be a walk in the park, right? Fast forward to 8:54 AM, and the play dough was already abandoned. Wait, what?! Three hours until lunch, four hours until nap time, and a whole eternity until my partner got home from work. Yikes. I needed a game plan—a survival strategy.
Three years and another child later, I can confidently say I’ve got this SAHM thing down, but it wasn’t always smooth sailing. What do we stay-at-home moms do all day? We work tirelessly—dressing, cooking, feeding, cuddling, playing, comforting, rocking, changing, disciplining, cleaning, teaching, driving, supervising, and let’s be real, sometimes we just manage to grab a snack while standing. This gig is no joke—it’s exhausting, isolating, and endless. Yet, it’s also incredibly rewarding. Here are eight survival strategies that I’ve discovered help me make the most of my days spent at home with the kids:
1. Plan Ahead
Each night, take a few minutes to outline your next day. Waking up with a toddler clinging to your leg and an infant screaming for breakfast doesn’t leave you much time to ponder what to do. So, get it done the night before while they’re asleep.
2. Get Some Fresh Air
Staying cooped up indoors can drive anyone batty. Your kids will feel it too, not to mention your house will become a disaster zone. Make it a point to step outside, even if it’s just for a short walk. Fresh air and new sights do wonders! And yes, a trip to the grocery store or Target counts as an outing. Thank you to whoever invented those nifty car carts!
3. Find Free Activities
Make it your mission to discover local free events and activities. Get to know every playground within a 10-mile radius, and don’t overlook libraries—my newfound best friend. Storytime equals one hour where you can sit back and film your child belting out “The Wheels on the Bus” while keeping an eye on the sniffly kid next to you.
4. Make New Friends
Don’t hesitate to exchange numbers with other moms. Trust me, they’re just as eager for companionship as you are. That friendly blonde at the park? The brunette from your mom-and-tot class? They’re all looking for friends. Invite them over for a playdate and relish the adult conversation while the kids entertain each other… at least for a few moments!
5. Squeeze In Some Exercise
I don’t work out to fit into my jeans (although that’s a nice bonus). I do it to carve out a few uninterrupted minutes for myself. Can’t make it to the gym? No worries! Push the kids in a jogger or follow a yoga video during nap time. Just remember Tim Gunn’s motto: “Make it work.”
6. Treat Yourself Weekly
Being a stay-at-home mom is a full-time commitment without any sick days or lunch breaks. After you’ve wrangled the inevitable snack debates, crank up the music and enjoy that coffee. Need more “you” time? Leave the kids with your partner, grandparents, or a trusted babysitter and go pamper yourself. You deserve it!
7. Break the Rules
Remember, you’re in charge! If your kids want to wear pajamas all day, why not? Or if you want to skip school for a day at a kid’s museum, go for it! Ditch the nap for ice cream? Absolutely! Life is too short—embrace the moments and break free from routine every now and then.
8. Make Quality Time Count
Being a stay-at-home mom is a precious phase of life, but it won’t last forever. Dive into playtime, run around outside, or have a dance party in your living room. Don’t stress about chores; focus on creating memories with your kids. Trust me, you’ll never regret letting the dishes wait for a day.
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Summary:
Being a stay-at-home mom is both a challenging and rewarding role. To thrive in this position, it’s essential to plan ahead, seek out fresh air, engage with other moms, and prioritize your own well-being. By breaking routines and making the most of time spent with your children, you can navigate the day-to-day chaos with grace and joy.