I proudly consider myself a feminist. Over the past three decades, feminism has been unfairly portrayed, often evoking images of a militant, man-hating caricature. Let me clarify: I am none of those things. I don’t suffer from penis envy; I experience wallet envy. My perspective on feminism is simple: women and men deserve equal treatment in every aspect of life.
I chose to marry a man who sees me as his equal. If we have defined roles, such as him working while I handle the children, it’s not because I’m any less valuable; it’s simply a practical financial decision.
This morning’s grocery trip was a true test of my patience. Of course, it was pouring rain — I guess Mother Nature is a feminist too, ensuring no one gets a free pass. As I approached the store, juggling an umbrella, a 20-pound baby in a carrier, and my three-year-old’s hand, I spotted an older gentleman, probably in his sixties, standing by the door. Naturally, I thought he’d help me out by holding the door open. (Note to self: never assume anything.) Instead, he just watched me struggle. As I set my baby carrier down to manage the door, I sarcastically muttered, “Thanks for getting the door,” to which he replied, “I thought you ladies didn’t want doors opened for you anymore.”
Touché, sir. I don’t expect you to open the door because I’m a woman; I expect you to do it because I’m clearly in need of assistance. Good manners aren’t about your gender — they’re about simple human decency. While women have fought for equal rights, some men mistakenly interpret that as an invitation to abandon chivalry. That’s far from the truth.
Now, as I raise three boys, teaching them the difference between “rescuing the princess” and simply being kind is vital. Basic human decency didn’t vanish with the suffrage movement. Whether it’s an elderly lady or a big, burly guy, if you reach the door first, you hold it open. That’s just good manners.
My kids may be a handful — they might pull pranks, neglect to put the toilet seat down, or forget their lunches at school. But above all, they will learn to offer a helping hand to those in need. Those are the kind of kids I want to raise.
If you’re interested in more parenting insights, check out our post on 10 Reasons All Children Need Good Manners.
In summary, feminism is about equality and kindness, not about diminishing good manners. As we navigate parenting, it’s essential to instill values of respect and decency in our children, ensuring they grow up to be thoughtful individuals.