As a mother, I fully recognize that mistakes are part of the package. Perfection? Not in my dictionary. I lose my cool, I raise my voice, and I sometimes overwhelm my kids with choices, convinced that fairness is key. Sure, I let them indulge in junk food, binge on TV shows, and spend hours playing video games. And let’s not forget the struggle of keeping them on a bathing schedule during the summer months! There are times when my family runs out of clean socks before I can tackle the laundry. Planning dinner every night? That’s a challenge I often fail to meet. Daily reading? Not enforced. And playing games with my kids? Let’s just say it’s not my forte.
However, as I navigate through the ever-evolving landscape of motherhood—now 13 years in—I’m learning to better manage my responses, breathe deeply, and model positive behavior for my children. I’m not a strict parent, but I’ve discovered that an abundance of choices can sometimes lead to chaos, especially with my clever little boy. I don’t want to restrict their fun, so treats, TV, and video games are all allowed, but we establish clear guidelines around these activities, which brings me peace of mind.
While my kids might not always be the cleanest, I make sure they don’t go out looking like they just rolled in dirt. Brushing teeth is a non-negotiable! Our laundry situation might get a bit chaotic, but they generally have what they need, and it doesn’t take long to run a load. Cooking? I don’t detest it, but let’s be honest, meals usually taste better when someone else is in charge of the kitchen. Regardless of meal planning, I ensure that no one goes hungry.
I don’t impose reading on my children, but I do promote it. They see me with my nose in a book and hopefully, that encourages them. Forcing reading might just turn it into a chore rather than a pleasure. As for board games, I’m not their biggest fan, but I engage in other activities with them. (Although as they grow, I find myself more inclined to join in.)
Due to my poor eyesight, I can’t always drive them where they want to go. If their dad is around, he steps in, or sometimes a friendly neighbor or Grandpa can lend a hand. Guilt can creep in, but I remind myself that a bit of disappointment is part of life, and they will bounce back.
I may not check every box on the perfect parent list, but I’m more than adequate. I prioritize their needs above my own, admit when I’m wrong, and learn from those missteps. This humility is a valuable lesson for them.
I genuinely enjoy my kids—they are more than enough for me. I shower them with affection, care about their education, and maintain open lines of communication with their teachers. I ensure they get enough rest and keep up with their health appointments. When they are under the weather, I’m right there, offering comfort and care. I share laughter, discuss difficult topics, and know them better than anyone else. My love for them is immeasurable, and I express it daily.
So, while I may not be the ideal mom, I am perfectly enough.
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Summary:
Motherhood is a journey filled with imperfections, and it’s essential to embrace the chaos rather than strive for unattainable perfection. Acknowledging mistakes, prioritizing children’s needs, and creating a nurturing environment are key aspects of being a mom. While I may not tick every box, I make sure my kids know they are loved and that I am doing my best.
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