One of my fondest memories from when my kids were little was discovering little notes tucked under our bedroom door. These notes were often folded neatly and sealed with tape, addressed exclusively to either Mom or Dad, with the clear instruction that only the intended parent should read them—because they usually contained some juicy complaints about the other parent! With a warm cup of coffee in hand, I would settle in to enjoy the latest “correspondence.”
One memorable note from my daughter declared that I needed to think for myself instead of blindly siding with Dad. She was upset about being sent to her room for jokingly calling him a “butt munch.” Apparently, Dad didn’t appreciate her sense of humor! The note ended with a dramatic plea: “DO NOT let Dad see this!”
When we took trips, I would often find sweet little letters waiting for me. “I’ll miss you tons, but I hope you have a great time! Don’t forget about me!” Each note was usually accompanied by a doodle or a tiny drawing.
There were also notes that were strictly for “Dad Only.” One proposed a brilliant idea about allowance: “Mom wants us to do chores, and you just hand over the cash. How about we just get our allowance from you? Mom can handle the chores. It’ll be our little secret. DO NOT tell Mom!”
As the kids grew, the notes kept coming, many of which were heartfelt apologies. “Mom, I’m sorry for being rude, but you ask way too many questions! I’m old enough to stay out until midnight with my friends, and I shouldn’t have to call you. Am I still grounded? I said I was sorry.”
Another note read, “Dad is so unfair! Everyone skips school; it’s part of growing up. I shouldn’t have to miss the dance this weekend because of that. I love you so much, Mom. Talk some sense into Dad. DO NOT show this note to Dad!”
One evening, I found a note that said, “Dad, I didn’t mean to sneak out to meet Joey. I got locked out, and he just came to help me back in. We were just trying to keep warm on the sofa! I would never make out with him while you guys were asleep! DO NOT tell Mom!”
Another note announced, “Mom, there’s a boy named Matt sleeping on our couch. He had a fight with his mom and needed a place to crash. He’s really nice, and it’s freezing outside. Please don’t wake him up; he had a rough night. Tell Dad, too.”
There were notes of remorse as well: “Dad, I’m sorry I called you a jerk! You’re a great dad, even if you sometimes act like one. I’ll remember that next time we argue. DO NOT mention this to Mom!”
One note expressed the struggles of growing up, stating, “It’s tough living here! With homework, sports, and chores, I’m just grumpy. If you’re wondering why I’m like this, it’s because life is just too hectic. Please write an excuse note saying I have measles so I can stay home from school for a week. Make sure Dad signs it too. Love you!”
And then there was the classic, “I wish you hadn’t married Dad. Couldn’t you have chosen a fun husband? I’m so tired of cleaning my room to his standards. I’m not in the Army, so why does it have to be perfect? Tell him to lighten up! It’s my room, and I can have it messy if I want.”
Oh, and let’s not forget the postscript: “P.S. I think I might have a mouse in my room. Can you ask Dad to catch it, please?”
Now that my kids are all grown up, I genuinely miss those little notes. Should I tell them that?
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Summary
The nostalgic reminiscence of finding notes from children under the bedroom door captures the candid and humorous moments of parenting. From complaints and apologies to heartfelt wishes, these notes reflect the unique dynamics of family life. Though the children have grown, the memories of their messages remain cherished.