When I was expecting my first child, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. Pregnancy was always on my mind. I devoured books nightly—everything from pregnancy guides to stories about newborns, juggling work with motherhood, and even some laugh-out-loud funny reads. I was all in, immersed in the week-by-week changes happening to me and my growing baby.
Fast forward to now, and I’m wrangling a lively toddler while preparing for my second little one. The reading? Yeah, that’s pretty much gone out the window. Those magazine subscriptions have turned into dust collectors, and the bestsellers I bought with such hope remain untouched. Even my inbox is bursting at the seams, threatening to drown me in unread emails.
In my first pregnancy, I basked in the glow of attention, proudly showcasing my baby bump like a walking billboard. Now, I find myself nervously wondering what my honest toddler might blurt out to strangers. I’m juggling sippy cups, snacks, and sunscreen, often throwing on clothes that may or may not match and are likely smeared with almond butter or yogurt—ah, the joys of motherhood!
Recently, a few friends have asked why I’m not chatting more about this pregnancy. It’s not because I’m any less thrilled about it. I adore this unborn child just as much as my first! However, there’s a noticeable difference in focus between first and subsequent pregnancies. With my first, all my energy, love, and attention were directed to one baby. Now, my time is shared, and that’s perfectly alright. I’ve learned so much since my first rodeo.
Let’s be real—I’m way more prepared for a newborn this time around. I’m well-versed in all the fun terms like Roseola, sleep training, and emergency cesareans. My experiences have left me with both physical and emotional scars that make me a pro. Plus, there’s another family member ready to shower this new addition with love.
While I might not attend another “Infant Care Skills” class, I know this little one will be just fine. In fact, they’ll be amazing—lovingly welcomed into a family that’s ready for them. Because love, unlike time, isn’t something that gets divided, and that’s truly what matters most.
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In the end, each pregnancy is a unique journey, and while I may not have the luxury of soaking in every moment, I know that love is abundant in our growing family.