Updated: Jan. 29, 2021
Originally Published: Sep. 13, 2011
Having a large family is like juggling flaming torches while riding a unicycle—exciting and chaotic, but oh so rewarding! With my eight kids in tow, I’ve learned a few tricks to keep the circus running smoothly (and without too many burnt eyebrows). Here are six tips to help you thrive in the delightful chaos of a big family.
1. Get Organized
Organization is the secret sauce to managing a large family. I can’t tell you how many hours I’ve wasted chasing down lost shoes or sorting through homework assignments. To keep our hectic schedules in check, I created a family calendar on a magnetic dry erase board. This isn’t your average calendar; it tracks everything from gym days to instrument reminders. Plus, thanks to Google Calendar, my husband and I can sync our schedules right on our smartphones. It’s amazing how much smoother life runs when you have a plan in place!
2. Involve Everyone in Household Chores
Running a big household is a team sport, and everyone needs to pitch in. A chore chart has been a game changer for us. Not only does it teach kids responsibility, but it’s also a way to link chores to privileges. You’ll be surprised how quickly they spring into action when they know there’s a reward involved. Just remember: untasked kids are like ninjas; they vanish at the first sign of a chore!
3. Plan Meals and Shop in Bulk
One of my favorite time-saving hacks is meal planning and bulk shopping. With a busy schedule, we shop once a week instead of making daily trips to the store. If you have the room, consider investing in a membership at a warehouse store. I can’t be the only mom who walks in with a cart full of groceries that could feed a small army! Just the other day, I brought home 25 lbs of chicken and 40 lbs of drumsticks. My chest freezer has become my best friend—seriously, it’s like a treasure chest of meal possibilities.
4. Declutter Regularly
I’ll be honest: keeping clutter at bay has been my greatest challenge. I used to be the mom who saved everything, but now I snap pictures of the kids’ artwork and save only the truly special pieces. Each morning after the kids head to school, I try to spend a few minutes tidying up. And don’t underestimate the power of a “ten-minute tidy”—it’s incredible how quickly the kids can clean up when we all pitch in together!
5. Make Time for Each Other
Amid the chaos, it’s essential to carve out quality time with your partner. Date nights don’t have to be extravagant; sometimes, takeout and a movie at home can be just as special. I’ve even turned grocery shopping into a mini date! Remember, a happy couple creates a happy home.
6. Prioritize Self-Care
In the whirlwind of raising a large family, it’s easy to forget about yourself. Make sure you’re taking time for your own needs; even a hot shower can feel like a spa day! If you’re overwhelmed, carve out a little time each day for something just for you, whether it’s reading a book or enjoying a cup of tea. You deserve it!
Raising a big family comes with its share of challenges, but it’s also filled with love and joy. Embrace each moment, take it day by day, and remember—you’re doing an amazing job! For more insights on family planning, check out this helpful resource on in vitro fertilization.
Summary
Managing a large family can be hectic, but with organization, teamwork, and a focus on self-care, it can also be incredibly rewarding. Involve everyone in household chores, plan meals, and don’t forget to make time for each other. Embrace the joyful chaos of family life, and remember that you’re doing great!