Maternity leave often feels like a dream—a fantastical escape where new mothers can bid farewell to the daily grind and revel in the joys of motherhood. We fantasize about bonding with our little ones, recuperating from the trials of childbirth, and finally tackling that endless to-do list that’s been gathering dust since we first joined the workforce. While it truly is a special time, many of my illusions popped like balloons before I returned to work. Here are some myths that I wish I had known beforehand:
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You’ll Achieve Major Goals During Your Leave.
Let’s be real—nobody believes they’ll write the next bestseller while juggling a baby’s needs 24/7. Still, I had high hopes for my time off. My ambitious maternity leave to-do list included things like organizing the house, reading “The Happiest Baby on the Block,” cooking healthy meals, losing baby weight, and binge-watching Friday Night Lights. Fast forward a few weeks, and I realized I hadn’t crossed off a single item. Instead, my new tasks consisted of “Brush Teeth,” “Bathe,” and “Feed Baby.” At least I nailed the feeding part—crossed that off a dozen times!
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You’ll Finally Visit All Those Places Open During Work Hours.
I envisioned myself running errands like a pro—bank, dry cleaners, that 10 a.m. spin class on Wednesdays. However, I soon discovered that my new spot on the couch was way too comfy to leave. The checks stayed uncashed, and my dry-cleaning piled up. As for that spin class? It became a distant memory.
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You’ll Have Plenty of Time to Catch Up with Friends.
With twelve weeks of freedom from the 9-to-5 grind, I thought I’d finally have the chance to socialize. But when I reached out, all I heard was crickets—everyone was either working or napping. Even trying to coordinate with other new moms was a challenge; our babies’ nap schedules seemed to be in a constant battle.
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You Won’t Miss Out on Milestones.
Picture this: I spent an entire Thursday staring at my baby for 18 hours. During the brief moment I slipped out to grab some pain relief, she learned to suck her thumb and giggled for the first time. Lesson learned? Never take your eyes off the prize.
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You’ll Take Your Baby for Outings.
Unless, of course, your baby was born during a heatwave, or it’s raining buckets, or your neighbor is blasting construction noise. Most days, I found myself glued to the couch, fully absorbed in a Top Chef marathon. “Hey, I can always take her out tomorrow!” became my mantra.
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Your Workplace Will Miss You.
I harbored this illusion that I was irreplaceable at work. But, surprise! Someone stepped into my role quicker than I could say “cervical dilation.” I wanted to hear all about the workplace struggles in my absence, but instead, I discovered I was easily replaced by someone just as capable.
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You’ll Be Eager to Return to Work.
What did I even do for a living? Something with computers? The Mob? Beekeeping? It’s all a blur! Honestly, if someone offered me a job playing peek-a-boo for 40 hours a week, I’d sign up immediately.
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You Won’t Want to Go Back to Work.
Maternity leave is a rare, fleeting gift where the chaos of life fades, allowing you to focus solely on your little one. I cherished every moment, knowing it wouldn’t last forever. Yet, after a morning of nine diaper changes or an encounter with colic, work began to sound almost inviting.
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