As the morning sun peeked over the rolling hills in Iowa, I caught a glimpse of my kids in the rearview mirror during our cross-country road trip back to the East Coast. My daughter was peacefully snoozing, while my son’s eyes twinkled back at me. Gone were the days of car seats; at 13, he looked so grown-up as he said, “I’m really enjoying this road trip with you, Mom.” Watching the sunrise together, I couldn’t help but savor this sweet spot of parenting teens.
There’s a lot of chatter about the challenges of raising teenagers, and let’s be honest, it’s a test of patience like no other. From eye-rolls to slamming doors, and those awkward talks about relationships and hormones, parenting during these years can feel like a rollercoaster. I’ve found myself having some real heart-to-hearts about teenage dating at the dinner table—let’s just say, it’s exhausting, maddening, and my wine budget has skyrocketed!
But surprisingly, I’ve come to adore this stage of parenting—tween and early teen years—rolls of the eyes and all. While friends warned me about the trials of parenting teens, I’ve discovered that, much like toddlers, they bring their own unique joys. I relish the moments spent with kids who are on the brink of adulthood.
As our children transition into their teenage years, we parents can finally breathe a sigh of relief. They can tie their shoes, whip up a sandwich, and shower all by themselves! Sure, they come with their own set of challenges, and the eye-rolling could rival an old horror movie, but life with teens is physically easier. The day my daughter could reach the kitchen cabinets and I was no longer the sole dishwasher empty-er was a glorious milestone.
Of course, there are moments when I catch a glimpse of their teenage selves and find myself wistfully yearning for those days of footie pajamas and tiny wet curls fresh from the bath. A nostalgic scroll through Facebook can evoke that longing for story time and Mommy-and-Me classes. But I quickly snap back to reality when I realize my home is no longer filled with temper tantrums and jingling toys that drive me to day drink. Now, when I’m cozied up on the couch introducing my teens to my favorite ’80s movies, I don’t miss Sesame Street one bit.
Teens are undeniably challenging, and some days they really test my limits. However, there’s a magical sweet spot around the ages of 12 and 13 where I’d love to hit pause on time. Just the right age—too young to drive off to parties, yet too old for playdates—teens often enjoy hanging out with their parents, making them feel mature. I’ve learned so much about their lives just from sharing a bowl of ice cream while playing board games. With relaxed bedtime routines and years of honing my parenting skills, I find myself more willing to listen to their stories. And when their jokes make me genuinely laugh, I realize how much I appreciate the individuals they’re becoming.
In those delightful moments—amidst my daughter’s dramatic sighs and my son’s assertions that I’m the most ridiculous person alive—I feel grateful that the toddler phase is behind us. Being able to share art, culture, and my true self with my kids has made parenting teens such a rewarding experience. Sure, less eye-rolling would be nice, but overall, I’m savoring the times when their personalities shine and I catch a glimpse of the adults they will be.
As we cruised down that Iowa highway, the sun brightened, casting a rosy glow over the clouds. My daughter woke just in time for a Bon Jovi tune to play on the radio. “Turn it up, Mom!” my son shouted, and as we sang along, I soaked in the evolving sound of their voices, thankful that they still appreciate ’80s music.
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In summary, the teenage years of parenting, filled with their own ups and downs, can be surprisingly fulfilling. They offer unique opportunities to bond, share experiences, and witness the remarkable growth of our children into adulthood.