Hey there, fellow parents!
When I say, “We need to teach our sons not to engage in harmful behaviors,” here’s what I’m getting at. Let’s kick things off early—like, really early—when they’re too young to even think about it.
Instilling Respect for Their Bodies
Start by instilling respect for their own bodies. We remind them to fuel up on healthy snacks, scrub their hands like little doctors, and make sure they switch out their superhero undies for fresh ones. (We know they love those red elastic bands, but hygiene first, right?)
Teaching Sharing and Patience
Teach them that snatching toys from friends is a big no-no. They can’t just grab whatever they want whenever they want. Patience, asking nicely, and sharing are key.
The Power of Words
Let’s talk about the power of words. When your little guy says something like, “I don’t want to throw like a girl,” respond with curiosity: “Why’s that? Afraid it might go too far?” Show them that your family doesn’t tolerate sexist remarks. Make it clear that you expect them to mirror that respect in their language and actions.
Understanding Personal Boundaries
Reinforce the idea that their body belongs to them. They have the right to say who can touch it and when. Hammer this point home: the owner of the body gets to set the boundaries. And yes, that means they need to ask others before touching them too. Discuss what types of touches are okay in your family.
Creating a Safe Space
Create a safe space at home where they can express their feelings. If they feel uncomfortable or have a gut feeling about someone, take them seriously. Don’t dismiss their concerns with “But Uncle Tim is so funny!”
Broadening the Conversation
As they grow, broaden the conversation. The principle of keeping hands to oneself remains, but the language might mature. Say things like, “If she says no, just step back.” Or, “If she wants to keep it to a kiss, that’s all it should be.” Reinforce that even if someone is rude or ignores them, it doesn’t give them license to talk trash about her.
Introducing Serious Topics
And when the time is right, introduce them to more serious topics like consent. Show them what a condom is and explain that having one doesn’t mean they can demand sex from anyone.
Discuss the realities of sexual violence when they’re old enough. It’s a grim topic, but it’s crucial to understand that it’s never acceptable.
Seeing Girls and Women as Equals
Let them see girls and women as equals. Remind them that consent is not just a fleeting topic—it’s a fundamental way of living that deserves respect.
Conclusion
So, let’s step up and teach our sons about respect and consent. It’s a vital part of their development.
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Summary
Teaching our sons about respect and consent starts early and evolves as they grow. From understanding personal boundaries to acknowledging the power of language, it’s essential to create a family culture that promotes equality and respect. Open conversations about consent and the realities of sexual violence are crucial for their development into empathetic adults.