It’s a scene we’ve all witnessed near construction sites: a confident woman strides past a group of workers, only to be met with a barrage of whistles, catcalls, and unsolicited comments about her looks. Now she has to decide how to react in that split second. Should she flip them off and keep walking? Should she toss her hair back and strut away, giving them a little extra to gawk at? Or maybe she should approach them and say, “Hey there, big guy, what’s your game? Because I’m not into this.” My guess is that if she did that, the catcalling crew would go silent in an instant!
I’m not bragging, but I’ve been on the receiving end of catcalling a few times, and honestly, it leaves me perplexed. I can’t wrap my head around why a man thinks yelling compliments at a stranger is a good idea. Maybe it’s because I don’t associate with guys who think it’s cool to hoot at women as they go about their day. Do they really believe that a whistle will spark a romantic encounter? Because spoiler alert: it won’t.
I’m a confident person and definitely don’t need validation from a random dude on the street who thinks my legs look “fine, mama.” Thanks for the input, but I’ve put in countless hours at spin class to achieve those legs!
When I’m out and about, especially while running, I often feel the urge to remind these men that I’m not a piece of meat for them to gawk at. But then again, that wouldn’t be very lady-like, would it? Just the other day, while strolling through the city with my daughter, I was appalled to hear men making lewd comments about my appearance. One guy in a coffee shop suggested he could offer me “more than just a cup of coffee, if you know what I mean, sweetie.” I’m pretty sure he wasn’t talking about the pastry selection!
When I told him to back off, he just shrugged it off, saying he was “just being nice.” That’s when I channeled my inner Janet Jackson and gave him a piece of my mind.
Everywhere we go, women are bombarded with unsolicited remarks about their looks. Whether it’s a lewd whistle or a crude comment about a mother’s figure, it’s exhausting. Guys, if you’re reading this: catcalling is not the way to a woman’s heart. It’s more likely to earn you a one-finger salute than anything else.
And let’s talk about running. I’m usually focused, enjoying my music, and dodging cars that seem to have it out for joggers. When some dude honks and makes a crude gesture, it throws off my concentration and makes running dangerous. Trust me, when I give you the finger, it’s not an invitation to join me for a romantic rendezvous.
Someday, I might just take a catcaller up on his bluff. Picture this: I lean in and whisper, “What really gets me going is the thought of you helping with the housework. Let’s go, hot stuff; my dishes won’t clean themselves.” Now that’s how you talk dirty!
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In summary, catcalling is neither flattering nor attractive. It’s a form of objectification that women do not appreciate. Instead of trying to gain attention through whistles and comments, let’s foster a culture of respect and genuine compliments.