As my son gears up for graduation, he’s bubbling with excitement, envisioning the freedom of adulthood. Meanwhile, I’m here, scribbling down all the wisdom I hope I imparted. (And yes, I might have shed a few tears over his baby pictures, wishing I could convince him that Mom teaching him in college is totally normal—just my style!)
- Take my words with a grain of salt. I’ve been wrong more times than I’d like to admit.
- But don’t dismiss everything I’ve said as nonsense. Some of it actually makes sense!
- I may have fibbed a little— your hand won’t magically detach from your arm if you stick it out the window while driving, the tooth fairy isn’t real, and those starving kids in China? They probably don’t care about your green beans.
- There were days when I considered “selling” you (not really, but you know how it goes).
- Remember, you’ve taught me as much as I’ve taught you. When you become a dad, be open to learning from your kids.
- Chewing with your mouth closed and keeping elbows off the table matters. Good manners matter—nobody wants to be the kid with bad table etiquette!
- I wish I’d let you argue back more. I was focused on respect, but I should’ve taught you to stand up for your beliefs as well. Sorry about that. See point 1.
- Saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t erase mistakes. If you mess up, own it.
- Never skip a shower— trust me, some people might not have the guts to tell you when you smell like a goat.
- Speaking of hygiene, always wash your hands after using the bathroom. And never trust anyone who doesn’t!
- Stand up for what’s right. As a young man, you might find it easier to overlook the rights of others, but don’t do it.
- How you treat your mother will reflect how you treat your partner. So please, quit threatening to put me in a home!
- Remember, I have a ladder and I’m not afraid to use it. If you ever feel violent, I’ll be there, ready to remind you what respect looks like—no matter my age.
- You’re intelligent, but wisdom takes time. We can chat about the difference when you hit forty!
- Heartbreak is inevitable. It’ll hurt more than I can explain, but know that it’s a human experience, and you’ll heal.
- Limit junk food. The fast-food choices you make today could lead to serious issues tomorrow.
- Bravery isn’t just for heroes; it means pushing through fear when it counts.
- Don’t text while driving, and avoid anyone who does. It’s just plain irresponsible.
- When washing clothes, cold water is your friend. High heat will shrink those favorite t-shirts!
- I’m still learning how to guide you. I’ll meddle and give advice you might not want, but it’s all from a place of love.
- Share your blessings. Never go to bed full while others are hungry.
- My love for you is unconditional. No matter what happens, it’s always there.
- Laughter is as essential as food— aim for at least three hearty laughs a day, and don’t hold back!
- Crying is healthy, even for guys. Anyone who says otherwise is simply wrong.
- I will eventually pass on. While I’m working to delay that, know this: you and your sister are my greatest treasures. When I reflect on my life, you two will always be my stars.
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In summary, these lessons are not just a list but a heartfelt guide for my son as he embarks on the next chapter of his life. Each piece of advice is rooted in love and experience, meant to prepare him for the complexities of adulthood while reminding him of the importance of kindness, integrity, and humor.