Congratulations! You’ve officially stepped into the world of being a teenager. I thought you’d be jumping for joy at this milestone, but your reaction has been surprisingly mellow.
I understand. The whirlwind of hormones, periods, and the joys of acne can feel like a never-ending battle. Middle school is tough, and soon you’ll be facing high school too. You’re in a phase of figuring out who you really are, and honestly, I don’t envy you one bit. This part of life can be really challenging.
Just the other day, you mentioned how birthdays feel like just another year gone by, and that we all end up pushing up daisies eventually. That comment hit me hard, and I realized I sometimes wrestle with those same thoughts. I tried to encourage you, but I think you brushed me off. That’s perfectly fine! I hope that one day, when you look back on this, you’ll remember what I said.
Here’s the truth: your existence matters. You matter. What you choose to do with your life matters. You have the chance to do good for others, to love, serve, and believe in something greater. I truly believe you’re destined for something special, with rewards that go beyond this life. Always remember that the beauty within you is something to cherish, and I can’t wait to see how it unfolds and impacts the world around you.
Mothering can be downright terrifying because all I want is to do right by you. I really don’t want to be the reason you need therapy later on! I’m sorry for the divorce; I hope one day you can understand. Thank you for being so forgiving and showing me grace through it all.
You have an incredible mind, and I encourage you to use it wisely. I know school feels pointless some days, but think about scholarships! They can open doors you can’t even imagine right now.
I wish I had your courage at your age. Your passion for equality and diversity, and your desire for a woman president, is inspiring. I commend you for caring about important issues instead of the trivial stuff I focused on back then.
I know I can be a bit embarrassing, especially when I laugh a little too loud or chat too much. Believe me, I felt the same way about my mom! But you’ll grow out of it, just like I did.
Please, try to steer clear of lying. I’ve been on both sides of that fence, and it only leads to trouble. Be honest with me, and I promise I’ll admire your bravery for being truthful.
As you begin to explore who you are, remember that I’m always here for you, waiting in the wings whenever you need me. You told me you don’t plan on ever working or having a job, which is quite the ambition! If you figure out how to make money without working, please share that secret with me.
I am so grateful to have you as my daughter, even on mornings when you ignore me and make me feel like a total failure. And a special thank you for those days we binge-watched Downton Abbey together—if that isn’t love, I don’t know what is!
I love you, always.
With all my heart,
Mom
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