In recent times, there’s been a lot of chatter about the pitfalls of social media connections when it comes to “real” friendships. Critics argue that texting has taken the place of meaningful, in-person interactions. It’s said that many people prefer to email instead of calling, send Facebook messages rather than meet up, and spend more time staring at screens than enjoying the company of friends and family.
But let’s get real, shall we? For many mothers navigating the chaotic world of potty training, temper tantrums, naps, and the occasional power struggle over snacks, it’s often easier said than done. Enter the realm of online friendships. Sure, we get it—chatting online can’t replace those cozy coffee catch-ups with friends. However, as motherhood has taught us, sometimes you have to roll with the punches. In fact, some online connections can actually be more beneficial than you might think. For starters, you can avoid the hazards of meeting their kids, who may or may not drive you up the wall. We all know that one friend whose child can be a little extra!
Online friends can also boost our fragile mom egos, reminding us of our brilliance and how fabulous we look in our profile pictures (because let’s be honest, some days we feel more like a frumpy mess than a glam queen).
Helpful DOs and DON’Ts for Online Mom Friendships
Now, if you’re diving into the world of virtual mom pals, here are some helpful DOs and DON’Ts to keep in mind, gathered from our extensive experience in online camaraderie:
DO: Become a Curious Friend
If she has a blog (and who doesn’t these days?), check out her “Favorite Books” page and gush about her awesome taste. Engage with her Facebook updates, sharing your own parenting victories and struggles.
DON’T: Go Overboard
Nothing screams “creepy” like liking every single photo from two years ago after just becoming friends. Keep it cool, folks.
DO: Show Your True Self
Moms love bonding over shared parenting fails, so save the Pinterest-perfect facade for someone else. Share the real-life stories of meltdowns, missed buses, and yet another round of mac and cheese.
DON’T: Ignore the Signs
If you share your toddler’s latest poop escapade and she changes the topic faster than you can say “diaper blowout,” it might be time to pull back. On the flip side, if she jumps in with her own poop disaster, congratulations! You’ve found a kindred spirit ready to swap stories of parenting chaos.
DO: Seek Out Moms in Similar Situations
Sometimes our in-person friends are in completely different phases of parenting. Finding someone who is also knee-deep in sleep deprivation or preschool drama can be a game changer.
DON’T: Dismiss Differences
Avoid the “mommy wars” by being open to friendships with those who may not share your parenting style. Some of the richest relationships spring from our differences.
Online friendships can be incredibly rewarding. They allow you to connect with women you might never have crossed paths with otherwise, sometimes even as your pre-mom self. We forged a bond through a shared blog that blossomed into a book! It’s refreshing to engage with others who remind you that you’re more than just a parent.
So next time you’re feeling a bit lonely and can’t muster the energy to leave the house, fire up your laptop and open yourself up to the chance of making a new friend.
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In summary, forming friendships online can be a fulfilling and supportive experience for mothers, providing a much-needed network of camaraderie and understanding.