Updated: June 28, 2019
Originally Published: Oct. 1, 2005
Almost 25 years ago, I took the leap and joined a sorority. Yes, I was one of those girls—your classic sorority sister of the early ’90s. We were often labeled as “bowheads,” accused of buying our friendships, and became the punchline of countless jokes about blondes and bimbos. We faced endless teasing about our big hair and pastel outfits. However, despite all the stereotypes, I cherished every moment spent donning those pastel Greek letters and bonding with some truly remarkable women.
This fall, across over 650 college campuses in the U.S., around 150,000 young women will line up at the majestic doors of stately sorority houses. They’ll be chewing mints, dabbing at sweat, and gearing up to make a stellar first impression on a bunch of giggling strangers. Whether they’re trailblazers in their families or continuing a legacy of sorority membership, these potential new members (PNMs) are about to embark on a whirlwind journey that feels like a job interview on steroids. Personality, poise, and humor all come together in a mere 15-minute chat that may barely scratch the surface with “What’s your major?”
For a week, these eager PNMs will totter in heels from house to house, navigating “ice water, philanthropy, and preference” parties, all with the hopes of securing a coveted bid by the week’s end. To outsiders, this may seem outdated, shallow, or even phony. While that can be true at times, my own experience during recruitment week was a rite of passage—a moment when I had to channel my inner confidence and bravely step outside my comfort zone to forge new friendships. Thankfully, I succeeded.
My sorority years were full of life lessons—about collaboration, camaraderie, and building lasting female friendships. I learned that no one looks great in white satin unless they’re about to walk down the aisle, and that there’s always someone else in your size. I discovered that 35 closets are better than one, and that everyone has a hidden talent waiting to be unearthed. Some girls radiate confidence, and they’re more than willing to share some of that glow with you. The shy ones often turn out to be the gems of the group. And while being the queen bee has its perks, true success comes from teamwork, especially if there’s pie involved.
I learned that you can’t help but smile when you sing—unless you’re crying, which is perfectly fine too. Your weight doesn’t define your spirit, and life has a way of unfolding at its own pace. Nothing worthwhile happens after 2 a.m. (unless it’s pizza or heartfelt chats on a couch that swallows you whole). You can fake it until you make it, but sometimes the best advice is to simply listen. Watching soap operas is best done with an audience of at least 15! Most importantly, I realized that no matter the problem, there’s a friend ready to help—just like an app for every dilemma.
Now, 25 years later, I see that the bonds we formed and the promises we made have stood the test of time. From the chaos of big hair and high-top sneakers emerged some pretty incredible women. We’ve transformed into judges, doctors, entrepreneurs, and more. We’ve tackled challenges like cancer, completed marathons, and even become global missionaries. We’ve traded in our Greek letters for new titles—CEO, VP, and yes, even MOM.
When we reunite, something magical happens. It’s as if we’re transported back to our younger selves, laughing and reminiscing about our wild adventures. No matter the sorority name—Thetas, Tri-Delts, Kappas, or others—just gather us in a cozy, dimly lit room, and we’ll start swaying together, arms around each other, reliving our glory days. As we share knowing glances, we can’t help but breathe a sigh of relief: “Thank goodness there were no cell phone cameras back then.”
In the glow of that nostalgic moment, amen.
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Summary
Reflecting on my sorority days nearly 25 years later, I share the joys and lessons learned during that pivotal time in my life. Those experiences shaped me and my friendships, and despite the stereotypes, the bonds of sisterhood remain strong. Reunions evoke laughter and nostalgia, reminding us of our youthful adventures and growth. Additionally, for those considering family planning options, there are excellent resources available to guide your journey.