I’ve always been the kind of person who has a diverse group of friends—some are far away, while others are right in my neighborhood. I connect with people from work, my kids’ schools, and increasingly, I find myself forming friendships online. While we might not be sending each other Snapchats like the younger generation, these friends are just a text away.
These friendships are where you can seek advice, share laughs, and vent about life’s little annoyances. As adults, our friendships can mean just as much—or even more—than those childhood bonds. For busy moms like me, these quick interactions can fill the friendship cup just as much as long phone calls used to.
Just like marriages, friendships require effort, communication, and sometimes a bit of luck. Unfortunately, not all friendships are built to last. Life can throw curveballs—hurt feelings, misunderstandings, or simply evolving interests can lead to a parting of ways. Breakups can sting; nobody wants to feel like a relationship has turned sour. But often, there are legitimate reasons for moving on, and the best course is to accept it and move forward.
Now that I’m in my 40s, I’ve experienced my fair share of friendship breakups—too many, if I’m honest. However, each one has taught me something valuable.
1. Cherish the Good Times
Think back to those nights filled with laughter over shared bottles of wine. Just because the friendship has ended doesn’t mean those memories should be erased. Appreciate the positive moments you shared; they helped shape who you are today.
2. Some Friendships Are Meant to Fade
Every friendship serves its purpose for a season, and when it’s time to move on, it’s best to do so gracefully. Remember, friendships coming and going are just part of life’s natural cycle—no need for drama or negativity.
3. Social Media Breaks Can Be Healthy
Seeing your ex-friend’s happy family photos can be tough. Sometimes, it’s better to create a clean break, which might mean unfollowing each other on social media. It’s not personal; it’s just about healing.
4. Family Ties Can Remain
It can be awkward, but just because you and your friend have drifted apart doesn’t mean your families have to. My kids might not be close with other kids anymore, but I’ve maintained friendships with their parents, and it can work the same way for you too.
5. There’s Always Room for New Friendships
The initial weeks after a friendship breakup can feel like a heavy blow—almost as painful as a romantic split. It’s easy to think no one could ever match the bond you had. But just like in romance, there are plenty of fish in the sea! With time and healing, new friendships will blossom. You might even have a future partner-in-crime right under your nose!
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Summary
Ending a friendship can be tough, but it’s important to cherish the good times, recognize that some friendships have a defined lifespan, and understand that moving on can lead to new connections. By keeping a positive mindset and focusing on the future, you can navigate through the pain and find new friendships that enhance your life.