A few years ago, I found myself reflecting on the expectations society places on us as we age. It often seems like we’re stuck in a rigid framework—cut your hair, store away those fun outfits, and eat your greens. But what about the vibrant middle ground? I’m talking about the dynamic space where women blossom. We might indulge in a bit more sass, enjoy our intimate lives more, and experiment with daring lip colors. We’re not just one-dimensional after hitting 40; we’re evolving into our true selves.
I remember a decade ago, working alongside a diverse group of women in our 30s in an after-school program for kids facing challenges. We were a blend of backgrounds—some married, some single, and none with kids at the time. We were passionate and driven. One day, Justin Timberlake’s “SexyBack” played in the office, and we all started bobbing our heads to the beat. Then, a woman named Lisa exclaimed, “Maybe I’m too old for this Top 40 stuff, but I can’t help loving this song!” Everyone nodded in agreement, but I couldn’t shake the thought: when did we start labeling music as age-specific?
Isn’t there music that simply resonates regardless of age? There’s a T-shirt I own that’s nothing fancy, but its cut flatters my figure perfectly. On even my most challenging days, putting it on makes me feel stunning.
There’s so much more I cherish now, things I overlooked in my younger years while fretting over perceived flaws. Here are some simple joys that make me feel beautiful, independent of age:
- A Crisp White Shirt
Whether it’s a classic button-down or a casual tee, there’s something timeless about a white shirt. It reminds me of the days of Ralph Lauren and Bruce Springsteen—it’s a staple of effortless style that feels sexy and fun. - My Go-To Jeans
A few years back, I splurged on a pair of jeans that were way overpriced, but the feeling they gave me was worth every penny. They’re slightly distressed with pockets that sit perfectly. Over time, they’ve aged beautifully, scratching my nostalgic itch for 80s glam. - The Black Crowes’ ‘Hard to Handle’
This song never fails to ignite my spirit. “Hey little thing, let me light your candle, cause’a mama I’m so hard to handle, yes I am!” I might mess up the lyrics, but that doesn’t stop me from dancing around the room belting it out. - A Fantastic Hair Day
I’m not afraid to admit that when my hair cooperates, it boosts my mood. Whether it’s perfectly tucked strands or gorgeous curls, those days bring an undeniable glow. - Painted Toenails
They don’t have to be salon-perfect. Just glancing at my shiny red or silver toenails reminds me that I took time for myself, which is a little treat only I need to appreciate. - Next-Day Vibes
In college, a roommate claimed that after a night of passion, your hair looks amazing the next day. Now, “next-day looks” take on a whole new meaning—the shared, satisfied glances with my partner remind us that intimacy is a vital part of our connection.
There are countless things that make us feel beautiful and fulfilled at any age, and some joys never fade. One thing’s for sure: I refuse to let society define what’s “appropriate” for my age. And I’m even warming up to the idea of a kale smoothie!
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In summary, embracing the little things in life that make us feel confident, beautiful, and sexy is essential, regardless of age. The journey of self-love and appreciation is ongoing, and it’s up to us to define our own standards of beauty.