One of the most significant challenges of my childhood was that both sets of my grandparents lived over 1,000 miles away from me. Reflecting on those times, I’m amazed that, even 30 years ago, before the advent of email and video calls, I managed to maintain meaningful relationships with them that shaped who I am today. I remember carefully timing my calls to them after 7 p.m., when long-distance rates were lower, always mindful of the time-zone differences. Our conversations were a source of joy for both me and my grandma.
Now that all of my grandparents have passed away, I often find myself longing for those connections. I wonder what it would be like to have their wisdom and support as I navigate adulthood and parenthood. I often think, if only Grandma could see who I’ve become!
Fortunately, I still interact with many grandparents through my work as a geriatric psychotherapist, counseling older adults in their homes. A common issue among this demographic is social isolation, which often leads to depression and anxiety. It’s a reality that many of us may face as we age.
In my sessions, I frequently ask my clients about their grandchildren and the nature of their relationships. While some have strong, affectionate connections, a surprising number do not. Even if their grandkids live nearby, they may feel as distant as if they were on another continent.
There are valid reasons for these disconnects, but I can’t help but wonder if as parents, we could do more to foster these bonds. I’m not just talking about having grandparents attend their grandchildren’s sports games or concerts—true connection goes beyond mere observation.
I think about what I would have lost if my parents hadn’t encouraged me to make those long-distance calls or taught me to write heartfelt letters. Every summer spent with my grandma was filled with cherished moments, like enjoying strawberry shortcake for dinner and participating in local library reading programs. I always wished for those summers to last forever.
Reflecting on our relationship, I realize that even in her 90s, we connected like best friends. She remained relevant and engaged, and I’d like to think I contributed to that vitality. Our bond allowed her to be more than just a loving grandmother; she was a dynamic individual who significantly impacted my life.
Today, we have more tools than ever to help our children and parents cultivate meaningful relationships. Unfortunately, society often segregates people by age, leading to less interaction across generations. This separation means we miss out on valuable lessons and experiences. Being “Mimi’s granddaughter” enriched my life, and I want my children to enjoy that same closeness with my parents. It’s beneficial for everyone involved and ultimately strengthens our humanity.
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Summary
Staying connected with our grandparents, regardless of distance, is crucial for nurturing relationships that enrich our lives. As parents, fostering these bonds can provide both children and grandparents with invaluable experiences and connections that last a lifetime.